The last one year with my little girl has been the most exhilarating, hectic and yet the most blessed part of my life. It is said that children learn from their parents as they try to imitate whatever they see them do.
But watching her bend and stand up on her own for the first time to take her first wobbly steps, I realized there is so much she teaches me every day and so much I can learn from her.
Everything new that she is able to hold in her hand is a trophy and takes her on the road to curiosity and discovery. She giggles at the craziest things that I do, gets wild about shiny foil papers and colorful magazines. She prefers the little cardboard boxes over the actual toys that came in them and banters in her own language without getting any response. And she wakes up each day as excited and enthused about the same things as she was yesterday.
Here are a few of my observations and life lessons I would like to learn from my one year old.
1.To never sit idle – Children are always trying out new things (and everything with same high enthusiasm)…they always keep themselves busy doing something and when they get bored of one activity they instantly switch to another. Playing, eating, fiddling with new small nothings or just crawling around the house ransacking and rummaging the contents of all the shelves and drawers or just bantering and babbling, they do not sit idle for a second. It is an important life lesson for us adults that life is a continuous flow and every moment has so much to offer to us.
2.To fall to get up and fall again but never get discouraged, reminding us to remember to bounce back from failures and keep the hope alive, to never get discouraged from failures and roadblocks and to keep moving no matter how bumpy the terrain, an important life lesson.
3.To believe in my dreams, and have no fears, doubts or prejudices in mind and accept everything with open arms- acceptance. Along the road of growing up, we sometimes become too cynical as adults, trapped in our own fears and doubts. We see the limitations and ignore the possibilities and good ideas.
4.To always be curious – The one word that comes to my mind that most describes a child is curiosity, children possess endless store of curiosity and every new thing sends them on a journey of exploration and wonder. On the other hand, we as adults tend to believe that we know enough and shy away from things that do not fall in this sphere. But it is when we stop asking questions and dwelling on the why’s that we stop learning and growing in our knowledge of the world.
5.To see the positive side of people and share unconditional love – Children do not focus on criticizing or finding faults. Neither do they judge people. Sadly we as adults get into the habit of fault finding and being pessimistic in our views about others. Our shallow egos do not allow us to label others better than us. I have done that too but realize now that when I truly appreciate the good in others that I open myself to imbibe a little of it too.
6.To once again learn to share smiles with strangers – Out on the streets or in the markets or on a local commute, my daughter smiles at everyone who waves at her. She has no qualms about babbling with anyone who is smiling at her and making faces which reminds me that the closest friends I have today were once strangers and so were all the other wonderful people I know today. If we could all accept people as interesting and wonderful, it could make a lot of moments like bus and train rides, elevator journeys a lot more interesting!
7.To not wait for the right moment to do what i want to and live in the present –Wrapped in their own wonder world, children do not fret about the future, neither are they consumed in the past, they do not even remember what happened a minute back…everything that matters to them is the moment they are in now. If only we could go back a little to this important trait we possessed as kids, we could reduce a lot of stress from our daily lives and enjoy the true gift of this present moment.
8.To be enthusiastic – Little things in life make kids jump with joy and go into a frenzy of ecstasy. When was the last time you remember being so excited about the little joys of life….a new dress, a surprise date, a shopping spree, a dinner treat, a smile from a stranger. Why do we have to get less enthusiastic about the things we loved so much doing earlier? Think about it!
9.To achieve goals – They know what they want and cry until they get it. It is amazing to see the strong emotions of likes and dislikes and determination to get what she wants, my one year old displays, I wish I was so confident about my goals in life and could go after them with the same perseverance. When I look back today I realized I could have accomplished a lot more if I had the same drive to achieve them and I chased them with the same grit.
10.And most importantly to smile a lot, with or without reason.