There are very few people in the world that have no stress in their lives, but the rest of us go through each day worrying and wondering about the future. This is my list of ways that will help you to be happy and relieve some of that stress you’ve got bottled up inside.
1. Choose to be happy. I know it sounds silly, but some people don’t choose to be happy, and would rather sit in misery than make any attempt to change. To be happy you have to choose it over stress and self-pity. Those people choose to be sad because their judgement is clouded by the pain they’re experiencing. When you’re in a bad situation, rationalize it; you might not be happy but at least you’ll understand what went wrong and it won’t be as stressful.
2. Stop blaming yourself for everything. There’s no way that everything that happens to you and the people in your life is your fault. In fact, I’m sure not even half the time. We like to blame ourselves because we would rather be the bad guy than pin it on someone else. Next time you hear yourself say “It’s all my fault,” stop and really think about it. Is it your fault?
3. Cry. Many people avoid crying at all costs because they believe it shows weakness. When you hold in all your emotions and don’t release them in a healthy, proactive way, they’ll come out in different ways, like a sudden violent outburst. In my opinion, I’d rather shed some tears than go into a rage.
4. Sit in the sun. There are numerous reasons why the sun is actually really good for us, especially against depression. Look at the difference between an outdoorsy person and someone who spends all their time inside. Who looks healthier? Happier?
5. Go for a walk in nature. This can be tricky for those who live in the city, but just walking around the block can do you a world of good. Getting your body moving and surrounding yourself with nature will definitely help you relax.
6. Write down all your negative thoughts and feelings. When you’re finished, either rip the paper to bits or, even better, toss it in a fire. The metaphoric destruction of your unhappy thoughts will make you feel lighter without the weight of sadness pushing you down.
7. Pick up a hobby. For example, when I’m not feeling my best, I like to write or crochet. Giving yourself something to do besides work and going out can greatly help you relax. When you’ve completed something, say you made a scarf or wrote a good poem, you’ll feel great because you’ve accomplished something.
8. Sing a song. Maybe this doesn’t work for everyone, but I feel fantastic when I sing along to my favorite tunes. A song that describes how you feel currently can be the best because not only are you enjoying yourself by singing, you’re expressing yourself and releasing those emotions.
9. Be yourself. If you’re always concerned about what other people think, ask yourself, “Do they care what I think of them?” Probably not, so don’t worry about what they think. Be who makes you happy, not who makes others happy.
10. The most important thing is to remind yourself what makes you happy. Whether it’s your kids, your spouse, your career, your pet, or simply being alone for a while every day, there are dozens of reasons for you to be happy. When you’re feeling down, remind yourself that all these things are treasures to you and are not to be forsaken.
In this day and age, it can be tough to be happy all the time. Overall, just have fun. Don’t think of life as this impossible task, but as the most amazing thing that’s ever happened to you. What could be better than simply being alive? We all need to learn to appreciate things a little more, especially the beautiful Earth and life we’ve been given. Thank you for reading, I hope this helps you to find your happiness!