As a photographer I shoot a lot of weddings, and while the details may change, there is one thing that’s as constant as gravity: stress. In my experience there are three unavoidable things that cause stress. That is the bad news; the good news is all you need to do to avoid these stresses is change your expectations. If you can just accept that these three things are going to happen no matter what, your wedding day will be much, much easier.
1 – The Wedding Will Start Late.
I have never been to a wedding that started on time. Ever. Many brides and mothers of the bride have almost completely lost it over something as simple the wedding starting late. Interestingly I have never seen a groom care even a little about the wedding starting late. Between the two who do you think is happier? Obviously the groom is happier; instead of spending his time worrying about something that is uncontrollable he usually just enjoys everything for what it is.
Trust me, it’s not worth it. Save yourself the stress, and just enjoy your day. Everyone is there for the wedding; no one is going to leave because it starts late, and you don’t want anyone at your wedding that would leave anyway. Start the wedding when you are ready and not a second sooner.
2 – Someone Will Look for Reasons to Stress.
There is always at least one person who just looks for a reason to stress. I have seen this person take a perfectly happy bride who is relaxed to complete overdrive for a simple problem that could have been solved without her involvement. Sometimes this person can be given busy work, but more times than not this person is the mother of the bride and that’s not an option. It is important that, when you identify someone who is looking for stress to just ignore what is causing them to stress. Better yet ask that person to fix the problem so you can get back to what is important, getting married.
3 – Things Will Go Wrong.
This is very important; your wedding will not be perfect. I know it might be hard, but if you accept that things will go wrong, your wedding day will be much happier. If you freak out I can guarantee what started out as a small problem will get bigger. The good news is that problems are not the end of the world, or the end of anything really. When things go wrong just adapt and move on. It will be OK, I promise.
At the end of the day only what you let cause you stress, will. No one wants to look back at their wedding, and realize that all they can remember is how stressed they were. Your wedding will go by very quickly, and with an event like this, you need to maximize your happiness. Take the time to enjoy your wedding day for everything it is, problems and all, and it will be what you always wanted, a day to never forget.