Our lives are hectic, confusing, complicated, exhausting, and we are constantly looking for breaks, vacations, me time, time off or just the weekend to relax. Do we really know how to relax? Sounds like you? Well you are not alone. Do you want to make life less stressful? Less Fretful? Less complicated? Well here are a few strategies that will help you have a better, quieter, more energize and fulfilling life.
Most people are stressed, always in panic mode, and at times experience bouts with depression simply because they don’t plan. We all have the same amount of hours in the day. The major difference between some people an others-they plan. If you had to be to work the same time every morning for the past 5, 10, 20 years, why are you still running late? Why are you rushing through the kitchen, and you were just there 10-12 hours ago? Start by knowing what you want to wear for the first two/three days of the week. This could save you 20 minutes on your clock. That extra 20 minutes you could spend, reviewing notes, mediating, listing to your favorite jazz, country, rock band, or a inspirational message before you leave the house. Doing this places you in a calmer mode, productive mode, and not to mention- a healthier one. You feel energize rather than fight or flight mode. Prepare your lunches the night before. This could save you and additional 10-12 minutes of your morning. Place your briefcase, supplies, cell-phone, by the door before going to bed. This will prevent unnecessary wandering before you leave the house. Don’t forget, traffic. If your job is 20 minutes away, plan to leave 15 minutes earlier. Meaning? If it’s 7 am, you are due into work at 8 am, you would need to leave the house at 7:25 am. This will allow for unforeseen circumstances: traffic accidents, inclement weather, school zones, or road construction. You are calmer, less stressed, less frantic, and your mind, body and boss will be grateful for it.
2. Take mini vacations
After a long commutes, screaming, demanding children, the thought of you spending more money at McDonalds or going home to cook is taking it’s toll on most working families especially on women doing it all by themselves. Remember, planning is the key. 1. On your Lunch, instead of listening to the latest office gossip, try taking a 30 minutes and reading your favorite crime novel, listening to quiet atmospheric themes, Find a quiet, uninterrupted office and meditate. If there is no such office, go to your car for 10 minutes and just allow yourself, your mind, your soul to escape the noise of machines, spreadsheets, reports, or just other voices. No, I am not suggesting being anti-social, just find time for yourself, and your peace of mind. If your lunch break is long enough, take up a 30/45 minutes stretch/palliates class and watch how renewed and energize you feel not to mention, how great you will look. You could finish off the next 4/5hours like you just got to work rather than from a break. Next, Keep healthy snacks in the car. Your kids will love you for this one!! This will keep you and your commutes friendlier, less hectic with your children and other motorist on the road. Store a small cooler in the car, van, truck and pack it with deli sandwiches, celery sticks, carrots, trail mix, and small boxes of green tea rtd (ready to drink). This will not only cut down on unhealthy splurges but prevents you from rushing home to cook, and even saves you more money at the end of the month. Try this! By the time you get home, the kids can complete their homework, play outside, and you have 1-2 hours to relax before jumping in the next evening activity. Perfect!
3. Time for bed
The bedroom is for two things and two things only! Sleep and sex. Watch T.V. in the living room. Turn your cell phones off unless you are a Detective, medical doctor, an attorney or the President of a country………….your phone, laptop, I -pad should not be in-bed with you. Some one told me once, “when you are in church, be in church. When you are in the bed, go to Sleep. “Sleep disorders are on the rise. Some sleep problems can be avoided. Try this: Review your domestic notes, business files, grades of students, family budget, and weekly activiites before heading to bed. Try not to do anything that would cause a spike in blood pressure, or requires intense thought near your bedtime. This will disrupt the serenity you will need while slepping. Try and complete these activites 1-2 hours before bed time but never at bed time. You will find yourself, tossing, turning, and experiencing mental gymnastics( your mind won’t stop racing). Before going to bed, listen to quiet, soft, inspitaional music. Place your feet in a at home foot massage bath for 20 mintues-this is very relaxing. Read a motivational book, magazine article, the Bible, Torah, or even the Qur’an. Not a fan of reading? Try sitting still before going to bed, and allow yourself to daydream about all the wonderful friends, family, and the support system you have and how fortunate you are to have so much to enjoy. Afterall, gratitude is often considered a natural antidote for fighting off stress, depression, and frustration. Living life at the edge of Epic! Thanks for reading.