Happiness. We are want it, yet we struggle to maintain it. The irony is that it is never what is going on externally in our lives that cause our happiness, but rather the way we live in our day to day lives.
As humans, we are creatures of habit and many of our daily habits separate us from achieving happiness. If we change our habits, we can improve our level of happiness. Here are 5 simple steps that we can integrate into our lives on a daily basis to feel more emotionally satisfied.
Never complain without reason. We all have our stressful days and many times we simply need someone to vent our struggles and to have someone empathize. The trouble is that if we complain too much we place ourselves in this self-defeating cycle of negativity, which not only negatively effects our mood but can also drain the energy of our loved ones. So rather than complain for the sake of complaining, make this new pact for yourself: “I will only voice a complaint to seek methods to improve the situation.” Changing your way of thinking in this way will not only minimize the negative energy you give out, but it also influences you to be more proactive, you feel a greater self of power within yourself knowing that you can change the outcome. So next time you voice a complaint, be sure that you are asking for advice and support in how to make this situation better. It may be to be more open about your feelings or to find a new job.
Instead of thinking “This is what I don’t have”, think “This is what I do have”. This simple shift in thinking shifts your thinking from scarcity to prosperity. When you focus on all the good things you do have, you become more grateful and positive about life.
Don’t depend on others to give you happiness. This can be a tricky one for many people because, as a society, this has become a bad habit for many of us. The reason this doesn’t work is because when you hold expectations for how others should please you, then will often times fall short. Holding expectations doesn’t allow others to be who they are at that point in time, but rather how YOU think they should be. And the irony is: Depending on other people never makes you happy because you never allow yourself to fully be you. Eat healthy foods, exercise, give yourself a nice bubble bath, take a short vacation by yourself, start a new craft or hobby (not matter how off-the-wall it may be), write a book, take a dance class — all of these things and more can help you emotionally recharge your batteries and feel a greater sense of self-power without depending on someone else to do that for you.
Surround yourself with people who give genuine unconditional support and who accept and appreciate you as you are. This can be, perhaps, the trickiest one for people but it is possible. If you hold on to people who don’t support you and never seek the support you deserve, then you stay in the self-defeating cycle. Only you can find that support for yourself. If you can’t find any in your local area, then look online. The best part of the internet is that we can all easily connect to anyone in the world with a click of a button. Seek out forums, groups, and websites of those with hobbies and interests similar to yours. Eventually, with some diligence and patience that support will come around.
KNOW that you deserve the best! As I said before, don’t settle for anything less that you deserve. You deserve love, appreciation, support, and acceptance for who you are. You are a wonderful human being! If you know that and fully believe that, then the more positive things will come to you. What you believe on the inside is what exists on the outside, so if at any time you feel a lack then give yourself some more internal pep-talks about how great of a person you are.
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