That time of year is upon us again! It’s the holiday season.
Even if we love the holidays it can be easy for the stress and overwhelm to start to skyrocket as we add the commitments and responsibilities that come along with it.
Buying gifts, making food, decorating the house, deciding who to visit, organizing travel, work social commitments, school events and parties.
As moms the truth is we often end up being the one’s shouldering the majority of these added responsibilities at this time of year. When we already feel stretched in our lives for time it can be easy to start to feel like our lives are spinning out of control.
We don’t get to experience the true joy and fulfillment of the season. We are too busy making sure we are meeting everyone’s expectations, including our own.
As mom’s we deserve to find the time to relax, put our feet up and give ourselves permission to truly enjoy the holiday season.
Through my own trials and tribulations over past holiday seasons here are my 5 biggest tips on how to avoid the end-of-year burnout and feel inspired and reenergized for the New Year.
Tip #1: Know Your Holiday Values
As you enter this holiday season take time to ask “What are my top 3-5 most important values for the holiday season?” Is it family, fun, giving, relaxing, financial responsibility, creativity, gratitude, peace, kindness, excitement? These values will provide the foundation for which you approach the holiday season.
Tip #2: Set Your Holiday Priorities
Now you have a list of your most important values you can use them as a guide to set your priorities for the holiday season. For example if your value is family then you may prioritize creating time for fun activities with your kids such as making decorations, baking, going to the park or whatever you enjoy doing the most with your family.
When you create priorities based on your values it provides you with the guideline for how you truly want to spend your time over the holiday season versus what you think you “should” be doing. This leads right into Tip #3.
Tip #3: Create Holiday Boundaries
The reality is that during this time of the year there will mostly likely be more demands on your time than what you can give. If we try to meet all these demands, or others expectations it sets us up for feeling not “good enough” or like we have failed in some way. The key is to set boundaries and be confident in saying “no” to what doesn’t fit into our top values and priorities.
Tip #4 Get Clear On Your Holiday Thoughts
One of the most powerful influences on our emotions, how we feel and the actions we take are our thoughts. As we enter the holiday season take the time to gain clarity on any thoughts you have about this time of year.
If you start to feel stressed stop, breath and ask why am I feeling stressed right now?
Is it because we think we are not doing a good enough job or meeting others or our own expectations? When we are able to identify these often unconscious core thoughts we then have the power to change them to more empowering thoughts.
Tip #5 Let Go
One of the best ways we can release and reduce our stress is learning to let go. Letting go of our tendency to be so attached to the outcomes. Letting go of the need for things to be perfect. When we are so focused on the outcome and perfection it is difficult to enjoy the moment.
When we make decisions based on our deepest values and priorities and learn to say no to those that don’t, it is the moment we can give ourselves permission to “let go and experience the true joy and fulfillment of this time of the year with our family.