Is my boyfriend cheating on me? Every woman asks herself this question at least once in their lives, whether they are fourteen or twenty-four. It may just be your insecurities eating you up inside, or you could have ended up with a two-timing dog. This is always a sticky situation because you don’t want to confront him and be wrong, and risk ruining your relationship, but also you don’t want to continue a relationship with someone who is being unfaithful to you. Take a look at these red flags, if the majority of them apply to your relationship, then it may be time you sit down and have a talk with your boyfriend.
The Cell Phone
Cell phones are relationship breakers. If your boyfriend is cheating on you, there will be proof in his cell phone. You may not even have to go through his cell phone to figure it out though. You generally can tell just by the way he acts about his cell phone. If you are in a committed relationship, your cell phones should be an open book. The ultimate test is to let your phone die and ask to use his. One tell-tale sign he has something to hide is if he won’t tell you the password, and he insists on putting it in for you. Also, while you are using his cell phone pay close attention to his body language. One clue that he has something to hide is if he appears nervous or fidgety while you have it. He also won’t leave your side while you are using it, and will snatch it out of your hand if he gets a text message or phone call.
Although there are a select few people that literally have no heart, most human beings are genetically programmed to have a guilty conscience. If your boyfriend is cheating on you, he will most likely feel guilty about it and make monumental gestures to make himself feel better about being unfaithful. If he begins showering you with gifts, flowers, and way more affection than usual, this could be a sign that he is feeling guilty. Although, you may enjoy that attention, and there is a chance he may just be in the mood to show you attention, don’t let your guard down because this could be a bad sign.
The Solo Runs
It is never a good sign when your boyfriend starts insisting on doing things alone, that you used to do together. For example, suddenly he no longer wants you to accompany him to the store, park, gym, library, coffee shop, etc. This could mean one of two things. He could be using his solo time to sneak off and meet the girl he is cheating on you with, or he may be afraid that the girl or someone she knows will see you with him.
One of the many complicated, unsaid rules of guy code is to help him keep his unfaithful behaviors a secret. Generally, if they are keeping a secret for your boyfriend, they will just ignore you so they don’t have to worry about spilling the beans. If none of his friends can look you in the eye anymore, then they are probably hiding something for him. The thing about guys is they’re terrible liars if they are under pressure and haven’t had time to prepare themselves. Your boyfriends’ pals will not be able to handle a spontaneous interrogation. But, remember anything you say to them will be repeated to your boyfriend. So, you have to be careful how you word your questions. You could jokingly say something like, “Did you know (your boyfriends’ name) is cheating on me?” If he begins stuttering and stumbling on his words and apologizing to you, then you have your answer. If he doesn’t take the bait or seems genuinely confused then say something like, “Yeah, he’s in love with his Xbox, he never wants to do anything anymore.”
Lack Of Interest
You know your boyfriend’s sexual needs and appetite. Men are habitual creatures, and you know how long he generally goes before his needs will need to be met. If he no longer seems interested, is lacking his usual enthusiasm, or just plain shoots down your advances then someone else has most likely already met his needs. If this happens once or twice, there could be other explanations like he doesn’t feel well or just plain isn’t in the mood. But, if this is becoming a regular occurrence, then it’s time for you to have a serious conversation with him about his lack of interest.