After an almost lifetime (excluding early childhood) of very long hair, I recently took the plunge and had 10 inches of hair cut off. My hair was to the middle of my back and now is a chin length bob. It was an amazing feeling! While it was still a shock, I had been preparing myself for this moment. My loved ones were convinced I was going to come home crying, but I came home the happiest I’ve ever been with my hair. Here are some ways I turned this possible hair raising experience into a very successful one:
- 1) Be Flexible yet Firm: I knew going to the appointment that I wanted a big change, but I didn’t want everything to change. My hair is dyed blonde, and I was 100% sure that changing it was non-negotiable. No stylist would’ve been able to talk me into it. However, when I showed my stylist the picture of the cut I wanted, she suggested going a little longer than I originally thought. I was really happy with her suggestion. Whatever your “non -negotiables” are; stick to them. Be open to suggestions, but remember to trust yourself.
- 2) Bring Pictures & Lots of Them: Since I’m not very eloquent with my hair terminology (“I want it short but not too short), I relied on pictures to do the talking for me. I had several pictures of the cut I wanted, and I made sure to provide pictures from all different angles. Be prepared to describe what you like and don’t like about the cut. However, while I might I love a certain celebrity’s hair; it doesn’t mean their hair will look like that on me. My hair stylist created a cut that combined what I wanted with what worked for my hair.
- 3) Put your Best Face Forward- When I went to may appointment, I was sure to wear my “best” makeup and a nice outfit. I thought this would help me feel good about myself, no matter how I ended up feeling about my hair (thankfully, I loved it). I really feel this made a difference during and immediately after the appointment. It helped me feel more confident in both myself and in making the change. I might not have responded as well to the change, if I wasn’t feeling confident before the appointment even started. I suggest doing whatever makes you feel confident before making the change. It doesn’t have to be makeup/clothes, it can be something as simple as wearing your favorite perfume.
- 4) Be Ready for Other Changes- While I was ready for the “big change”, there were other unexpected changes that came with it. I needed some small makeup switches, as I felt my eyes were more noticeable than before. Be prepared for more dramatic makeup changes if you change your hair color. I also had to learn a new way to style my hair. It wasn’t hard to style my hair, but it certainly was different. I couldn’t rely on a pony tail for bad hair days, so I had to get creative with bad hair day solutions. Allow for some “kinks” in the beginning, the changes and adjustments take time.
- 5) Trust Yourself-When I decided to cut my hair, almost everyone tried to talk me out of it. Most people were afraid I wouldn’t like it, but I knew I was ready for the change. I had a variety of reasons, but I was positive this was the right time. There had been other times I thought about it, but it never felt quite right. If you don’t feel ready, it’s okay to change your mind. I had a friend who drastically cut her hair on whim and loved it, but that’s not always the case. I recommend thinking about it for awhile. Think about the changes/commitment that come with your new style, and make sure they will work with your lifestyle.
PS If you hate your hair (I’ve been there), remember its just hair. It can be dyed, it will grow, and there’s always extensions!