Sometimes I feel angry or sad or some other emotion that I don’t particularly enjoy.
And that’s okay.
We come with most emotions pre-installed at birth, and we just develop connections between those emotions and what triggers them. So the so-called positive and negative emotions are all healthy. They aren’t always expressed in a healthy way, but the emotions themselves are healthy.
Some folks think that because they feel discomfort with sadness or anger, that they should find ways to never feel those things again. So far, very few folks have successfully achieved that goal. It is far more balanced and healthy to allow ourselves to feel emotions and learn how to deal with them.
I was sad recently and didn’t know why. A friend asked me how I was going to stop feeling sad if I didn’t know what the cause was. I said, “I don’t have to stop it. I will feel it, own it, then move on.”
If I’m afraid of sadness, I will experience anxiety when I feel sadness approaching, or when facing a situation that might cause me to feel sad. I’m trying to reduce my anxiety levels, not feed them caffeine.
If I don’t like a cold winter, in time it will stop being winter without any help or input from me. It will transition into spring, and before you know it, I’ll be complaining about spring storms and looking forward to complaining about the summer heat. It’s all a cycle.
I feel happy right now, so I can enjoy the happiness. If something comes along and I feel sad, then I’m still okay. I can cry, I can feel low, but that will all pass in time and I’ll feel another way later. Sadness came, and sadness will go.
Anger, fear, and all of the other emotions which make us feel discomfort – these things will come and go. It’s how we manage them that makes the difference. And frequently they will change and shift without us having to do a thing.
Sometimes anger, fear, or sadness doesn’t go away. In that case, it’s a symptom of something that might need to be addressed for the emotional waterways to flow again. A professional service might help us identify and deal with those issues.
Emotional perspective can help us see how healthy emotions are, reduce our anxiety triggers related to them, and free us from expectations about them. Our peace will sometimes be disturbed, but it too will return.
Sad, angry, happy, afraid, or confident: whatever I feel is what I feel.
An emotion is like the weather in Missouri: If you don’t like it right now, wait a day and it will change.