I knew and people around me could see that I was scared to gain weight because I talked about it and debated second servings and deserts. People would say “Pfffftt” to that, “you have nothing to be worried about!”. But I was unaware that I’d been gaining weight the first time, so I did have something very real to fear. It was becoming too prevalent in my life.
I stopped weighing myself
I lost the weight the healthy way and knew a ton about nutrition and exercise, but my attachment to the scale was something deeply ingrained in me. I stepped on the scale about three times a day to make sure my nightmare didn’t come true again. When I was relieved that it hadn’t, I’d justify eating more that day. I knew then and I know now that the scale doesn’t reflect how healthy/unhealthy I am or even how I’ll look in a mirror and I was aware of how my eating schedule became dictated by the number I saw. so this year I just stopped! I put the scale under my bed and stopped weighing myself. Now that I don’t identify if I’m hungry/allowed to eat, feeling fat or confident with my scale result I listen to my body. I developed a relationship with it. I eat when I’m hungry and I know when to stop. I recognize and feel just the way I see myself in the mirror and love what I see everyday because there isn’t a number telling me not to.
I embraced my assets
I reinforce my confidence by focusing (or re-directing if I have to) on the parts of my body that I love. I have beautiful, feminine hands and healthy nails, a strong jaw line, clear skin and a backside I know someone would buy if they could. I also let compliments make me feel good! People don’t often (if at all) say nice things they don’t mean and they are only saying what everyone else is thinking but is too shy to say, so don’t shut them down! Encourage compliments by saying “thank you” and give more of them, too!
I dressed myself well
Learning to dress my body well was key to feeling good. It allowed me to get familiar with my new body since I’d lost weight. There are two main components to dressing yourself well, size and style. Buying and trying on incorrect sizes will defeat you mentally and kill your shopping productivity. Compare your measurements to a size chart online and use that to guide you when shopping. Search keywords like ‘dressing body types’ to get some style ideas and make a Pinterest board for outfits you love to inspire you before shopping.
Don’t forget to play up your best features! I take great care in making my nails look nice since I love my hands, I play up my jaw line with bronzer and give my skin even more of an attention grabbing glow by putting a little Vaseline on each cheek bone. I also buy plenty of jeans with decorative back pockets for my cute round butt!
I spent time with my body
I believe the more time you spend with your body, the better body image you will have and if not, it will give you the motivation to change what you don’t like. Exercising, meditation, preparing healthy meals, painting my nails, and going swimming are some of my favorite self loving activities.
More articles related to this topic and by this author include:
The Natural Beauty Makeover-
Self Love: Getting to Know and Loving Yourself-
The Mantra for Women and Girls Dealing with Modern Oppression-