I never thought I would fall in love with someone I have not met before, until I saw Jean’s pictures. Excited to know more about her, I read her profile. Right then, I knew that she was the girl I’ve been waiting for.
That was a year ago when our adoption agency was trying to match us with a 2-year-old girl. After Michael and I carefully perused the details about Jean, we decided we would like to adopt her. It took us many years to fulfill our dream of starting a family. It was a tedious process we underwent, but it was very much worth it. The moment we met and finally touched her, we felt a very strong connection to her, a feeling of happiness that was indescribable by words.
We bonded right away, but for her to accept the reality of leaving her friends behind was not easy. For a 2-year-old child who spent two full years of her life in the orphanage, going through this process was very difficult. Although she understood that from that time on, Michael and I would become her parents, it was painful for her to bid goodbye to everyone who has become part of her life. She knew she would miss the playtime, the kids’ parties and every little bit of activities she used to be part of. She would miss the country of her birth.
The transition was difficult for her and for us. I remember vividly that very moment when we had to leave the orphanage, she cried and screamed telling us she didn’t want to leave. She ran fast chasing her caregiver with whom she had an emotional attachment for two years, begging that she be allowed to stay. It broke my heart seeing her crying, so I carried her and lovingly hugged her. I told her that we love her and promised that everything would be all right. It took a long while before I was able to pacify her. I was so touched witnessing how close her relationship was with other orphans. One girl even volunteered to be adopted by us so she could be with Jean, and we could be her mommy and daddy too. It wasn’t easy to bear the pain seeing them being separated. If we could only afford to adopt the other girl, we probably would, but it wasn’t that simple. We had to go through the process and be placed in the waiting list again.
It has been six months since that heartbreaking moment happened. We have brought Jean home with us to the United States. She is adjusting very fast and has made new friends. She is very sweet and often shows us her affection by saying “I love you, mommy. I love you, daddy.” She enjoys being cuddled and held. A smart and outgoing child, Jean loves to sing and dance. Her favorite activities are writing, reading and drawing. Michael and I are glad that we pursued our dream by adopting Jean, who has brought so much joy in our life. She is a gift from God and has made our life complete. We consider adopting her as one of the greatest things we have done in life.