Although at times it is stressful, formal recruitment is a fun experience that leads to new friends. Girls going though the process for the first time are often overwhelmed by the ins and outs of Greek Culture, especially on a larger campus. After going through formal recruitment as both a Potential New Member (PNM for short), and a recruiter, here are some of the best tips I can give:
Remember, We Are Excited To Talk With You
So relax. Sorority members have been preparing for formal recruitment since the spring before. It is a big event for us. We plan everything, from how we are going to look, to how to remember your name. After months of preparation, we are excited to talk to you. We want to talk to you. Every sorority girl craves finding a PNM that they can connect with. Even if that connection is talking about late night pizza binges and bad romantic comedies, we want to talk about it. We want to know what you are passionate about! So please, talk to us. Don’t just answer questions in one word. Recruitment is about connecting with the right girls, and finding a house that matches your personality.
Every school has different rules about how a girl should dress going through recruitment. It’s important to follow those rules, and to dress appropriately. This doesn’t mean you are going to be judged on whether or not you are wearing designer clothes. You also are not going to be judged on how skinny and “beautiful” you look (although the media will have you believe otherwise). Think of recruitment as a job interview, and dress respectfully. Sorority girls are looking for someone who makes a good first impression, looks put together and confident. As mentioned earlier, we have spent a lot of time preparing for recruitment, and we want to see someone who respects that.
Ask us questions as well. Find out the experiences that the girl talking to you has had in the sorority. What was her favorite moment? Why did she join this house? We remember the girls that are interested in the house and our philanthropies.
In general, avoid questions about fraternity involvement. Choosing a sorority is not about finding the house that meets with the group of guys you like, but finding the girls who you feel at home with. Also bring water and a snack, especially if your campus has a large Greek system. Recruitment can be a long process, and no one is happy when they are hungry.
Have fun and enjoy your time as a PNM. Formal recruitment is a truly rewarding experience, and sorority life only gets better!