I speak of home goings, because those that believe and have accepted Jesus as Lord, view the funeral as a joyous occasion because the deceased person has passed on from their physical body to be with the Lord. It is my belief as a new creation that I will see those that have accepted Jesus as Lord again. So the home going (funeral) is more of a celebration that the deceased is now with Jesus.
I also, have observed there is more emphasis from the ministers that preside over the funeral to announce that cellphones should be placed on vibrate or turned off. It shows respect to turn your cellphone on vibrate or turn it off as it could disrupt the service. Have you heard some of the ringtones that are on the cellphones now? Sure there are those that are required to keep their phone on when they are on call for work, but keep it on vibrate. I cannot count the number of times, a pastor has announced about the cellphones, then during the service, someone’s cellphone goes off, and they are frantically looking in their purse or coat pocket to find it.
I have also observed that at some funeral homes as the family and friends enter the parking lot the attendants start tagging the cars that are going to the cemetery, as oppose to trying to line everyone up after the home going. This is a great idea. Then after the home going, those going to the cemetery can leave immediately.
Also, I have observed that many of the home going services are only allowing several comments from family and friends. This will usually be printed on the program. Now if you are not on the program, it is expected that you not say anything out of respect for the family, because usually the funeral home is on a timeline. When there are too many remarks that can cause the home goings to be longer than expected. I believe this is a great idea, because you would not believe some of the remarks that I have heard people say at a home goings. I believe that some forget exactly what the remarks are for. The remarks are to uplift the family, because the family usually is sad because they have experienced a personal loss of their family member. You should not make negative remarks during this time.
According to Funeralwise.com, you can use your own words to express condolences, such as we are thinking of you, or he/she was a fine person. One of my favorite condolences to the family is “Receive the comfort of the Lord.” I do not think home goings are changing drastically, but slowly traditions are changing.
More from this Author:
Dealing with Grief
Healthy New Habits for the New Year
Do You Know the Promises of God?