Often when singles discuss the topic of marriage, they sometimes stumble as to really why they want to take such a big step. If you’re thinking about getting married take these points into consideration.
What things do you have in common? – Of course you are not the same person, but there should be some things that you enjoy doing together. Find out where you have similar interests. Many couples are drawn together because of them.
Can you see yourself growing older with this person? – As we get older gravity seems to have its way with our bodies. Those pounds don’t come off quite as easily. Wrinkles are a constant companion. Sometimes the hair falls out. Are you ready for those changes?
Bad vices – Does smoking, drinking, or gambling cause you concern? If you know that these might be a deal-breaker, don’t marry with the idea that you will change that person. In the end you are frustrated and become the one who is changed.
Pet peeves – This could include things such as snoring, talking loud, smacking their food, or having bad breath.
Children – Do you want children and how many? It’s probably not a good match if you can’t agree.
Religious beliefs – What is your religious affiliation and that of your intended spouse? If one professes to be an atheist and the other claims to be Protestant that might be a major cause of concern.
Where will you live? – Do you want to start off in an apartment or purchase a house immediately? Will you live at one of your homes or do you want a fresh start?
Will you both be working? – Will you live on one income or both of your salaries? If you are the wife will you work after the baby is born? If you are the husband, do you want your wife to stay home until the children get into school?
Do you love this person unconditionally? – That’s through the good, the bad and the ugly times that couples experience.
Dress- Are you looking for a GQ model for a husband or a high-paying Cover girl for your wife? If you are a casual dresser do you expect your spouse to be one as well?
Banking accounts – Will you have separate or individual checking accounts? While there is nothing wrong with having separate accounts it would be wise to have a joint one too in case of sickness or death where you will still be able to have access to the account.
Money issues – Is one guilty of spending too much while the other is too cheap? Money is a big reason why marriages don’t last.
Marriage is one of the most important steps a person can make. It is something that should be taken seriously. Communication is key. Don’t make the assumption that you are on the same page. Talk it out!!