Staying married in today’s society can be tough! We always hear the same advice. “Communication is key” and “Never go to bed angry” are the go-to marriage cliches. However, there is a lot more that goes into keeping your marriage healthy. If you are ready for marriage advice that actually works- keep on reading.
Confrontation is key. What? That’s right. Fight it out. Divorce happens because couples refuse to deal with their problems head on. If you are having an issue-bring it up. It’s natural to want to avoid conflict, but this simply isn’t conducive to a healthy marriage. Don’t force arguments, but know that they are inevitable. It is much better to talk about your problems and deal with them.
Keep Matches Handy. Contrary to every romantic comedy ever relationships don’t stay strong without a little work. That initial spark will dim, and you will have to work together to relight it. Mignon McLaughlin once said, “A successful marriage requires falling in love many times, always with the same person.” Never stop complimenting your spouse, always say I love you, and always be willing to work to fall back in love.
Friends Come Second. Once you take those marriage vows, your spouse becomes number one. If you have a friend that doesn’t like your spouse, it might be time to give them the boot. This may sound harsh, but friends and their negative opinions can be toxic to an otherwise healthy relationship. Surround yourself with people that support your relationship.
Privacy is Key. In the age of social media, you may feel inclined to share every detail about your marriage. DON’T DO THIS. Your marriage is sacred, and your problems should stay between you and your spouse. Once you open the door for other people’s opinions, it’s going to be hard to close that door. Your problems and your sex life should not be shared. If you are having problems, talk to your partner. If you are dissatisfied with your sex life, talk to your partner.
Be an Open Book with your spouse. No passwords should be withheld. No cell phones should be locked. Your spouse should be aware of every area of your life. If you feel the need to lock your phone or hide your Facebook password, chances are you are doing something you shouldn’t be doing. If at any point you feel the need to hide something from your spouse, you need to stop what you are doing. Being an open book helps to build trust.
This marriage advice may not be conventional, but these five tips are sure to improve the quality of your marriage.