Many Scientists have agreed that life experiences only help shape half of our personalities the rest come from our gene pool, part of the identity card you’re given at birth. Which unfortunately means if you are a women that suffers from low self-esteem and you have a daughter, more than likely your daughter will have low self-esteem as well. A shocking study done by the NYC Child Study Center indicated that the average American girl’s self-esteem peaks at the age of nine and then plummets. Every 7 minutes in a school setting a girl is bullied. One out of 4 college age women have an eating disorder. Then 7 out of 10 girls believe they simply aren’t good enough.
The question remains on what patents can do to put an end to this way of thinking, to stop the issue of low self-esteem. Here are a few tips to help build a higher self-esteem in young women
Steps to Boosting Young Women’s Self-Esteem:
Praising and Encouraging Potential: As a parent you always want to do what is best for your child, but it is easy as a parent to pay more attention to the mistakes and correct them then it is to praise them when they do something right. It is important that parents show children through words and actions that they are strong, smart and beautiful. Getting your child involved in an organized sports or activities will help build confidence in something that they do rather than how they look.
Open Communication: No subject is taboo! It may be uncomfortable for you to talk about drugs, sex, and alcohol with your child but it is better they can talk to you openly and get proper information. This will also build trust between you and your child. A survey done by the Dove Campaign, showed that the top wish among girls is for their parents to communicate better with them which includes more frequent and more open conversations, as well as discussions about what is happening in their own lives.
Limit and Filter Entertainment Media: As a parent you don’t want to be over protective because that will push your child away, but at the same time you don’t want them comparing themselves to those air brushed super stars. If your child really wants to watch a show, and it is age appropriate, sit down and watch it with them, have an open conversation through-out the show about why you, the parent, think what they are doing on the show isn’t right and let your kid speech freely and openly with you, discuss not argue. This will also create some much needed bonding time.
Self-Improvement: Even though your child will not admit it parents are role models. The way the man of the house, and the Father treats the mother and the children will lay out a guide to how the child sees themselves and the degree of respect and value they will receive from others. Part of a recent nation report on self-esteem showed that more than half of girls surveyed said their mothers criticize their own appearance. It is more important now than ever to understanding our value as women, and boost our own self-esteem, if we are ever going to change the cycle.
Being a parent isn’t easy and with all the social media, cyber bullying, regular bulling and just the need to fit in for young women is over whelming. The most important thing to do is to re assure them every day that you are there for them and make them believe it. Make sure they are aware that they are one of a kind and no one else compares. Then hopefully in the years to come we can end this cycle of low self-esteem and bring forth a brighter future for all women big or small.