If Hollywood and gossip websites have taught me any love lessons, it is that even the most famous celebrities in the world are not immune to a broken heart or a failed relationship. The Brad Pitt – Angelina Jolie – Jennifer Aniston story is a great example of how a relationship may seem perfect on the surface, but is full of problems underneath. And how your whole world may be turned upside down at the most unsuspecting and inconvenient moment.
Luckily, for most of us, we are not under a giant microscope with paparazzi and tabloids documenting our hours, months, and years of heartbreak and angst. Instead, we face our problems in private while realizing that even celebrities with “everything” go through the same relationship pains and heartaches as we do. I have learned a few relationship lessons from Hollywood, and applied them to my life:
1) What to Say About Your Ex
I highly respect any person who is able to walk away from a relationship without trashing their former significant other. Unfortunately, Brad Pitt isn’t a role model for this since the has famously discussed how miserable he was when he was married to Jennifer Aniston. While there may be some truth in these revelations, your ex was still a major part of your life during that period of time. You cared for each other, otherwise you would not have committed to each other for a prolonged period of time. Regardless of how the relationship ended, I do not believe in tarnishing the reputation of someone I loved simply because the relationship didn’t last. Of course, there are exceptions to this rule when another person’s safety may be involved (e.g. Rihanna and Chris Brown).
2) How to Handle a Breakup
A strong support system is important after a tough breakup. After Brad Pitt and Jennifer Aniston divorced, the tabloids continuously published pictures of the happy new Brangelina couple alongside a picture of a single Jennifer Aniston with her married friends. It takes time to recover from a broken heart, and friends help keep your mind occupied and optimistic during those long months. You don’t need to jump from relationship to relationship to be happy, because you have great friends that love you, regardless of your relationship status. At first, you will think about your ex every minute of every day. Then, it will become just a few times a day. And, one day, you will go weeks without thinking about your ex.
3) How to Move On From Your Ex with Someone Else
As I’ve stated earlier, I believe it takes a bigger person to respect your ex’s feelings even after a rough breakup. If the relationship ended because of another person, don’t taunt your ex by rubbing your happiness in his/her face. Be happy in your relationship, but also be mindful of your public displays of affection and any comments that may make its way back to your ex. It is difficult to go through a breakup, and your ex doesn’t need additional heartache from seeing the new happy couple kissing all over Facebook. Jennifer Aniston handled her very public breakup gracefully by expressing well wishes for Brad and Angelina, despite what she may have been feeling in her heart.