Women have come a long way since the 1920’s, they may not have completely conquered gender equality but they are getting closer. Even with that said almost every women have or still are suffering from low self-esteem. Women are routinely degraded through pop culture and even casual conversations from their peers. Most often these issues started when they were younger and alter their way of life well through their teen years. Low self-esteem in women affects everything in their lives from how they deal with situations at the office to how they manage their home, and even the way they interact with their peers.
Self-help books, human potential seminars, and life couches have self-esteem as one of their main topics. Women for years have had to deal with the pressures of being primary care takers of their family’s while juggling work, personal life’s, errands, and everything else in-between. Unfortunately when people feel like they have too much on their plate and feel like they can’t accomplish anything it makes them feel like failures. The statement, “We are our own worst critic,” couldn’t have been put better. On top of the self-doubt, statistics have shown that only 2% of women think they are beautiful, and 57% of women are targeted for work place bullying.
These reasons are just part of the foundation to why so many women have low self-esteem. The other part is just our genetic coding, most scientists agree that almost half of our personality is part of the genetic code we were issued at birth. The best thing women can do for themselves is to have a mental mind set of self-dominion. Self-dominion is the ability to get ourselves to actually do what we want to do, have self-disciple and self-trust. This does not happen overnight but there are steps you can take to build your self-esteem and have self-dominion.
Steps for a Higher Self- Esteem:
Understand you’re in control: What happened in the past is in the past there are no time machines to make things right. Live in the now, and stop dwelling on what could have, should of, or would have been, there is no need to beat yourself up you are human just like the rest of us, we all make mistakes.
Small Step: If you feel overwhelmed, too much to do not enough time, pick the smallest task on your list to start with. Once you have successfully completed it you will gain confidence and that will help build momentum to continue down the list.
Set Short Term and Long Term Goals: If you have a list a mile long give yourself a practical goal, such as, I will get 5 things done by the end of this week, and if you succeed or go past your goal you will feel like a winner, which builds self-esteem, and confidence in yourself. Long term goals are also something good to set. Just ask yourself where you want to be in 5 years. Then if in 5 years you are still working toward that goal and realize how far you have come, it is in reach, that is success and victory is yours.
Get Out and Socialize: Make set plans once a week with a close friend to have lunch, invite people you are comfortable with to join. Being social helps build your communication skills which aids in building self-esteem
Reassure yourself: Doing something you are good at whether it is painting or playing the guitar when your down and out this will help remind you that you can do something and not everyone masters everything.
Pass it on: If someone you know appears to be having a bad day give them a complement, reassure them that they are amazing and incredible. Smiling is contagious.
Self-esteem is the average of your self-concept in all major areas of your life. It is important to stop comparing yourselves to others and realize you are one of a kind and the world is fortunate to have you. It is time to stop being critics and enjoy the life that you have. Time to have more self-esteem and realize the power we have in getting ourselves to take the right action. We only have one life, live it while we can.