Anyone can be a good mom. Keep your kids alive and you are halfway there. But can a working mother be a great mom? What makes a great mom? Is it crafting with the kids every week? Helping them create the coolest science project? Taking them to the park every weekend? Hosting the best birthday parties? I haven’t managed to do any of these.
For the longest time I looked at my sister with jealously because she did. I thought she was a great mom, and I was just a good mom. I kept my kids alive and sometimes managed to drag myself to an after-school event. However, many mornings I let my daughter run out of the house without checking that she grabbed something to eat and brushed her teeth. Other days I made excuses as to why we couldn’t go to the school book fair or dance, when really I was just too tired from working all day.
After years of feeling like just a good mom, I finally realized that I was a great mom. I looked at my two wonderful kids and realized that it takes a great mom to raise two wonderful human beings like that. So what was it that made me a great mom instead of just a good mom? How did I manage to raise two wonderful kids while working a full-time job? It’s easy, I was there for them. It turns out that doing things with your kids and giving them stuff is only part of the job. You need to teach them life lessons as well. How you teach the lessons does not matter as much as making sure they are learned.
Below is a list of lessons every child should know by the time they are 10, and it doesn’t take a stay-at-home mom to teach them.
- Your parents love you.
- You should respect your elders and care for them too.
- Try new foods all the time (start early). Make healthy choices.
- Exercise is key. Stay active.
- Learn to let little things go.
- Chores should be done every day.
- Money does not grow on trees. Budget.
- It’s okay to make mistakes every now and then.
- Everything and everyone has its limits. Respect them.
- No one is perfect.
And for those moms that are a little too liberal. Pay attention to your kids. It doesn’t matter if you work full-time or not, when you see your child do something wrong, correct them. Immediately.
- It’s not okay to take something that isn’t yours.
- Words can hurt just as much as throwing rocks.
- Take responsibility for your actions.
- Have empathy for others. Care.
- Feel good when you do something nice.
- Feel bad when you do something wrong.
- Nobody owes you. Nobody.
- Everything requires hard work. Nothing is free.
- It’s not important to be the best. It’s important to try your hardest.
- Kids may be just kids, but that does not give them the right to be rude.
If you make sure your kids understand (and practice) these 20 things by the time they are 10, you will have everyone telling you how great a mom you are, no matter what your work situation is.