Many seniors who have a wedding are not getting married for the first time. A large number are widows and widowers, enduring the loss of a beloved spouse. These seniors have been blessed to find a love connection again after such a devastating loss. The wedding is a chance to celebrate both the new love and the love that has passed beyond. I have seen touching examples of remembrance in several weddings I have assisted with.
This is graceful simplicity for the ceremony. Light an elegant white candle in honor of a passed love one’s memory brings the experience full circle. It can either be done with full acknowledgement to the guests as to the meaning, or as a quiet part that is held close to your hearts. This is a touching ceremony that is full of peaceful meaning.
Wearing a Reminder
Wearing a gift from a deceased spouse or an item in memory of the spouse who passed away is a personal tribute. Jewelry or personal adornments such as cuff links or earrings given by the deceased are easy to subtly incorporate into wedding attire. A picture or memento tucked into the pocket or unobtrusive place can also give comfort to the memory of that individual.
Saving A Seat
Place flowers on a seat to symbolize the spouse who passed. Place an invitation with the husband or wife’s name on it. Add a photograph if you desire. This can be a subtle, but powerful symbol of the loved one who passed away.
Photo Presentation during the Reception
Get several digital photo frames and load them up with random pictures of the happy couple and their families. People will enjoy getting to know the faces of this new blended family. Do not just show current photographs, but older photographs of the couple to celebrate their entire lifetime that brought each of them to this point. Photographs of former spouses, children and other times throughout the couple’s life should be celebrated and displayed.
In Loving Memory
A small area of remembrance on the program for the day brings the memories forward in a positive way. Simply place the words “In Loving Memory” with the names of the deceased spouse along with the years of marriage or years living at the bottom of the program.
Honor a spouse that has passed away by incorporating a favorite candy or color into the favors. A favorite chocolate or trinket can bring back pleasant memories.