Clarity is often times mistaken for a personal internal clarity, or that “Aha!” experience we all get from time to time which oftentimes can be a great inspirational motivator. There are many people who have amazing realizations each and every day, yet find themselves frustrated with what isn’t happening around them that they would like to have happening. This is because oftentimes there is a false assumption that the realization itself that makes the difference. This has lead to many books like “The Secret” being misunderstood. So, to clarify, realization and thoughts by themselves produce NOTHING.
In the 20 years I have studied NLP and more specifically the last 17 years the branch of it known as the MythoSelftm Process under the personal guidance of it’s founder Dr. Joseph Riggio, I have discovered a critical… indispensable… yet often missing piece: proper ACTION. Yes. There is no big “secret” here- yet it often gets deleted from most people’s plans. To put it simply: Clear thought followed by deliberate and consistent follow through is what separates those who get far more of the results they want than those who don’t.
The Reason Most People Don’t Succeed
The reason most people don’t is because they lack one of the two elements. There are a few prominent reasons for this:
1. Lack of clear Intention. The old joke “How do you get to Carnegie Hall? Practice” is inaccurate. It’s actually “Perfect practice”. Doing something over and over again incorrectly or with no clear sense of what it should look and feel like when executed properly can create a worse situation than not doing anything at all.
2. Boredom. When the end result becomes the most important thing rather than being focused on the journey itself – it can be easy to fall into the trap of thinking it isn’t working. The reality is that most days require repetitious actions need to be done many, many times to get to a result. There is a quite by Jim Rohn that goes “If you go to work on your goals, your goals will go to work on you. If you go to work on your plan, your plan will go to work on you. Whatever good things we build end up building us.” The process of getting where we want to be changes us along the way. Who we will be by the time we get to the outcome we are seeking will not be the same person who started. This is necessary to take into consideration. If we are aware of this then it is easier to stay focused.
3. Trying to re-invent the wheel. The truth is there are people who have done things successfully already. It’s easier to follow that framework than to try and figure it out from scratch.
Getting Back on Track
Oftentimes when getting off track, it can be enormously helpful to look at what is happening. I invariably find one of these reasons are always present. Getting these straightened out is the simplest way to resume going forward. Another important element to remember is we will all fall down. The point is to keep getting up and going forward towards what matters most.