When was the last time you trusted your significant other with your life? Communication and trust is the key to any relationship’s longevity, and rock climbing promotes both. When you are climbing, you have to trust that the person on the ground (your belayer) is paying attention and communicating with you. That is why I know that rock climbing is one of the best ways to bring yourself and your significant other closer together, physically and emotionally. These are the reason why my husband and I climb together.
Communication. When my husband is climbing, I have to be aware at all times. I have to be aware of the rope, my surroundings and anything that might cause either of us harm. If he says, “Take!” then I have to pull up on as much rope as quickly as I can. If he says, “Falling!” I have to react accordingly. Communication is crucial when climbing. There have been times where we have miscommunicated on the wall, but we are learning every time we climb and that has improved our communication within our marriage.
Trust. When I climb, I have to trust that my husband has my back. I trust that he is focused on me and my actions, and that is something were to happen, he would know which actions to take. If you do not trust the person on the ground holding your rope, it becomes a mental game when you are on the climbing wall. It took a few months before my husband and I finally trusted each other totally. We recently went climbing at New River Gorge in West Virginia. My husband took a 30 foot “whipper” (a long fall), but he trusted me to catch him on the rope. It took a lot of trust for both of us for him to make that fall safely.
Physical Activity. Have you ever heard the expression, “The couple that sweats together stays together.” It is certainly true in our case. Rock climbing is hard and takes a lot of strength. Throughout the process of learning how to climb, we have sweat together, bled together and laughed together. We come home exhausted and happy. And studies prove that couples are happier and more sexual after they work out together due to the endorphins that were released (see http://www.learnvest.com/2012/05/exercise-good-for-your-body-and-your-relationship/).
Fun. Rock climbing is a fun activity! It is definitely a change from the same old treadmill and weights routine. Find an indoor climbing gym in your area to get started. Eventually you will be able to start climbing outside.
With all the benefits of rock climbing with your significant other, what is stopping you? Go climb and look forward to a happier, healthier relationship with your partner.
Disclaimer: I am not a rock climbing professional. Please consult a professional before engaging in any physical activity.