Dating can be a tricky thing to tackle. You may have the perfect career, car, and house, but there is always one thing missing. A partner, someone you can share everything with. According to the article “Dating Problems,” the author discusses focusing on the rewarding aspects that you can gain from the dating world. If you have had some bad dating adventures, do not view it as being unlucky in love; view it as a learning experience. What did you learn from the person that you did not know before? Personal growth equals personal happiness.
Introversion vs. Extroversion: Knowing if you are more of an introvert or extrovert can be a relationship savior. I am a true Southern Belle who loves a great conversation next to my tea and lemonade. Naturally I am more of an extrovert, but I do love to have down time as well. A few years back, I dated this guy who was a complete introvert. But, sometimes people will date a particular person because he/she may hold qualities that the dater wishes they possessed. He liked my outgoing personality and probably had a deep desire to be more outgoing. He tried really hard the first few months to keep up with me and my constant personal appearances. After about five or six months, he was completely exhausted and started becoming more of a homebody, which I believe to be his true character. I realized at that moment, I need to only date extroverts because I don’t want to stop my social life. There is nothing wrong with being either or, but I feel it is important to identify yourself as an introvert or extrovert and date the same.
Commonality: I really hate when others say “Opposites Attract.” This idea is so 80s and it came out of a Paula Abdul song. Dating your opposite may work for you, but it does not work for all. In my personal experience, it is best to date someone who has similar interests as yourself. What do you talk about if you have nothing in common? Get in touch with yourself and date someone who is similar to you. Who you date is a true reflection of self. If you enjoy doing outdoor adventures, then date a person who loves to stay active. If you like to go out to the clubs, then date a partner who likes a social environment. If you have a positive personality, don’t go dating Debbie Downer, you will be unhappy. Don’t force the relationship to work; if you feel the need to control, then let the relationship go. Relationships do not thrive when confined.
Communication: How can you read a dating article without the mention of communication? We are in a world where communication has lessened drastically. People are spending more time at home due to the technology craze. I do like the saying “Idle hands are the devils playground.” This is exactly what’s happening. More people are in their head assuming and creating situations that do not even exist. It is becoming one’s own demise. Instead of making presumptive decisions, communicate with your partner. Open up to him/her about what you are feeling and how certain actions make you feel. And, get out of your head and back to living.
Respect: Everyone loves the infamous Aretha Franklin song “Respect.” And honestly, that’s what most people crave in all relationships. Does your partner make condescending remarks such as “you could lose a little weight” or “you are so dingy?” Does your partner bash you when he/she hangs out with friends? The truth is not only do they disrespect you, but also themselves. Confront your significant other on their behavior and tell them that it is intolerable for you to be treated this way. Respect me or hit the road.
Dating Problems; Christine Switzer