In society there are many types of personalities. Some we accept and others we have a hard time accepting. When it comes to the world of dating this is no exception. We all know men are of a different caliber. That is just the way it is but the ambiguous man is something to be reckoned with. Especially if you are dating one.
To be in a relationship with an ambiguous man is a challenge in itself. One who is constantly making excuses for his actions. Who appears to always be on again, off again. Never knowing if he truly wants to commit. How can a woman date such a man? Or should she even try? It will greatly depend on how much she cares for him and more importantly than that, how much patience she can invest in the relationship.
I have had the experience of dating an ambiguous man. I can tell you it does take a lot of patience and care. There have been moments when I have questioned the relationship. Not knowing if I wanted to invest the time it takes, not to mention, having the frustration in my life.
One question to be asked when you are dating this type of man, Is he worth it? Secondly, Do you see any signs, if any, of a future commitment? Of course if just one answer is No, than it is a waste of precious time. Time in which you could be spending on someone else.
All men have their reasons for not committing. Some stem back from childhood. These are the men who are the most difficult to convince. Why? Because we can’t change the past. How they were brought up. What their parents were like is pretty much a done deal. Yet, in saying that, I have to say with God all things are possible.
But if the man we are dating has reasons other than his past, we may be able to work through his fear of commitment. If he will open up and share what he is feeling. Remember a lot of men aren’t comfortable revealing their innermost feelings—this will be the time when patience is needed.
It is not always due to the man’s upbringing which causes him to fear a relationship. Women saying or doing the wrong thing will cause a man to retreat. Two of the main ones is in the area of communiciation. Revealing our feelings to soon and speaking about a life long commitment, when he isn’t willing or able to commit. Those are only two of them. There are many others.
When it is all said and done.The bottom line is, How important is he to you? And two, Is he willing to make you a priority in his life? A one sided relationship in the natural will never work. Two people have to want to be together.
In my own personal life with an ambiguous man I’ve come to the conclusion if it is meant to be than he will come around. But in the meantime, I am going on with my life, knowing God is well aware of my circumstances and He knows what is best.
An ambiguous man can become a happily married man. With a lot of love and patience, that is.