We’ve all heard stories of bridezillas and how unreasonable they can be. Truth be told, anyone can become one if there has been a problem with the planning and you arrive at your special day with last minute preparations going awry. Sometimes you can avoid this by hiring a competent wedding planner or by following the advice of a full service officiant, but there are bound to be some things that are just going go wrong.
Many books on wedding planning will tell you that you need to begin your plans months in advance. True, you will want to line up your professionals early so that you are able to reserve them for the date you have in mind. You will want to have your invitations sent out a couple of months in advance. You will want to select your cake, flowers, and certainly, your clothing with enough time to make last minute changes if need be. But there are certain things that can wait, in fact, certain things that can only be done at the last minute: decorations and food. These are things that often go wrong and the things that, when less than perfect, can ruin the day and turn the sweetest lady into a bridezilla.
The best solution is to have a team of helpers with one person in charge of any given task. You may have four cooks preparing food (assuming you are not having the food catered) and one who organizes and knows what is laid out how. For the decorations, you may have someone who sets the tables, another who works with the floral displays, someone who hangs streamers and balloons, etc., and someone who oversees it all to make sure that things are coordinated. It is wise to delegate. Let someone else handle the last minute preparations. Be sure that you communicate with these team leaders well in advance so that you are certain that your desires are being followed, and that he or she is not going to “go with a gut feeling” and make some undesired changes at the last minute.
You may want to do a stress check as you approach your date. If you are breathing hard, feeling lightheaded, have ringing in the ears or just feeling exhausted, you may be succumbing to stress. Consider taking some time out to meditate. Just five minutes with your eyes closed and breathing slowly and deeply will help to lower your blood pressure and help you relax. If you can spare a half hour to follow a recorded guided meditation (there are many nice ones on YouTube) all the better. You may also enjoy some yoga positions.
Other ways to help reduce your stress levels include journaling. As you record the progress you’re making toward the perfect wedding, write down your feelings. It will make for a lovely keepsake. You can soak in a tub of bubbles and listen to quiet music. Taking a walk in the woods or sitting by a rippling stream will help calm nerves and help you to relax as well.
Knowing how to keep your stress levels within your control will help you enjoy the process of preparing for the best day of your life. The day of the ceremony, you can concentrate on getting dressed and making sure that you look fabulous so that you can totally enjoy your day.