I’m getting really tired of everybody bashing the fashion industry for their poor self-esteem.
It’s human nature to appreciate and glorify beauty, and it’s been done throughout history, way back to the art of ancient Greece. Even animals choose mates based on which one is the most physically fit. Does that mean it’s the only thing that’s important in life? No, of course not.
We shouldn’t place our value on something as temporary and material as looks. Nor should we base our lives on anything earthly or superficial. (Not our IQ level nor success nor sense of humor nor money nor fame nor talent or anything else people try to idolize and worship for that matter.) Our worth and value comes from reflecting the image of God, not worrying about our own image. You are valuable because the Creator of the universe and the greatest artist of all time has written His signature on your soul. That alone makes you beautiful; it gives you value, meaning, purpose! And until you understand that, you’ll never be happy with yourself — whether all models are plus size or size zero, whether you are obese or a supermodel.
Confidence has to come from inside. Being content comes from the decision to be thankful for what you have, not worry about what you don’t, and then trust God to bless your future. You need to find the balance between reaching for your goals without giving up and still being happy with where you are at right now. And always maintain your main focus on Christ. Aspire to be a good godly person most of all. The kind of things you covet in other people, you have to realize that striving for and achieving these things — money, fame, looks, success, popularity — will never give you fulfillment or make you happy by themselves. It’s OK to want to be pretty, but it’s more important to be who God wants you to be.
“The Lord does not look at the things people look at. People look at the outward appearance, but the Lord looks at the heart.” -1 Samuel 16:7
“Your adornment must not be merely external-braiding the hair, and wearing gold jewelry, or putting on dresses; rather, it should be that of your inner self, the unfading beauty of a gentle and quiet spirit, which is of great worth in God’s sight.” -1 Peter 3:3-4
“I want women to show their beauty by dressing in appropriate clothes that are modest and respectable. Their beauty will be shown by what they do, not by their hair styles or the gold jewelry, pearls, or expensive clothes they wear.” -1 Timothy 2:9
“Therefore I tell you, do not worry about your life, what you will eat or drink; or about your body, what you will wear. Is not life more than food, and the body more than clothes?…Can any one of you by worrying add a single hour to your life? And why do you worry about clothes? See how the flowers of the field grow. They do not labor or spin. Yet I tell you that not even Solomon in all his splendor was dressed like one of these. If that is how God clothes the grass of the field, which is here today and tomorrow is thrown into the fire, will he not much more clothe you-you of little faith? So do not worry, saying, ‘What shall we eat?’ or ‘What shall we drink?’ or ‘What shall we wear?’ For the pagans run after all these things, and your heavenly Father knows that you need them. But seek first his kingdom and his righteousness, and all these things will be given to you as well.” -Matthew 6:25-34
This doesn’t mean it is wrong to wear jewelry or wear clothes for that matter or care about our looks; just because money isn’t everything doesn’t mean we shouldn’t try to get jobs. It’s just that they should not become a priority in our lives. Our worth and value is not determined by what things we do or do not have. So stop blaming other people for making you feel bad that you don’t have them. Don’t let yourself become dependent on these things if you have them; and don’t let yourself get depressed if you don’t, and don’t despise people who do. When you do, you are making an idol out of material things.