Every move towards change involves a big decision. This is especially true for working moms who made that switch towards becoming a stay at home mom (SAHM). Whether you are already in the SAHM situation or planning to be in one, there are some tell-tales that you need to be aware of in making that big leap.
1) “I am a stay at home mom. It is my career.”
Ever since I quit my full-time job to take care of my family, I always use the words “It’s my new career” to somehow give some dignity to my personal choice. However, contrary to what I thought (and probably true to some), being a full-time mother and housewife is NOT A CAREER. Career as defined in Merriam-Webster is “a profession for which one trains and which is undertaken as a permanent calling”. A career is an occupation that you regularly work hard for and allows you to bring home the bacon. A SAHM is not even a long-term calling since children will eventually leave their abode to have their own families. For those like me with a college degree, we were not trained in school to become “professional” mothers. It is quite hard to swallow the truth about this personal choice but in a sense, there is really no career being a stay at home mom. We work hard enough at home but we technically don’t work for a living.
2) “There is no income being at home.”
While SAHMs may not have that regular income from a full-time office job, it is NOT TRUE that we are only experts in spending and we cannot generate any income at all. With all the online resources on work at home jobs, a SAHM can earn a decent living if she has the patience and motivation. More and more online businesses emerge looking for freelancers and SAHMs to fill their vacancies and help their business grow. There is no scarcity on where to find a part-time online job that could augment the cash flow of your one-income family.
3) “You lose your life’s ambition in lieu of a boring life.”
The pathetic thought of losing your ambition in order to build your family’s future is so oppressing that there will be instances you will find yourself moping and losing interest in your own goals. This is especially true for mothers who just left the career arena. But lo and behold, staying at home may open doors for you to venture into a home-based career as a businesswoman. According to the 2007 Survey of Business Owners, nearly 30% of the 28 million US firms account for women-owned businesses. It does not say, however, what percentage of that accounts for home-based firms. And if a home-based business is not your strength, why not become a tutor, a virtual assistant, a part-time teacher, or even a writer?
Did I mention boring? I do not intend to compare here but let me tell you this: SAHMs can do a lot of things on a daily basis that other office-tied moms do not have the time to do. We can take care of the needs of our family while enjoying the flexibility of time we have. A work at home job, gym & fitness time, hobbies and crafts, online business, writing, and community volunteering to name a few. Office moms’ primary stressors are their boss and their tons of work while stay at home moms get stressed by enjoying life.
Every woman has her personal preference and for those who chose to follow the SAHM path, it will be hard. But in time, you will find out that there is a lot more in being a stay at home mom. You will be frustrated at first but will soon regain your confidence to work up another ambition or career that may be better than what you originally have as a working mom. But then again, the decision is all YOURS!