I’ve been contacted on Facebook, again. This time from someone who used to attend a church attended over 20 years ago, in a different town, different state, etc. It isn’t the first time I’ve been contacted on Facebook, and I’m sure that it won’t be the last. I started to communicate, befriended the person, even saw where other people I used to know back then, including family members, have friended the person, but I don’t really want to talk to the guy. I didn’t talk to him back then, and I don’t really want to talk to him now.
But then another individual I did talk to, and even worked with, contacted me on Facebook, and I friended that person too. I never initiated contact with him, and he didn’t initiate contact with me. He sent the friend request, and I acknowledged it, but it didn’t go anywhere from there.
I want the keep the past in the past. The people who have contacted me, the experiences weren’t traumatic or anything, and they are showing initiative that the people who are supposed to be my friends on Facebook refused to do but I don’t know what to say to them and am not sure if I even want to say anything to them at this point. Friends and family members I would like to speak to, I can’t find, and they can’t find me because my profile is private, in part because of the experiences I had when people actually did find me, and it is also private because I do not want to be found through any potential future employers, as I feel that my Facebook profile is none of your business unless you have actually befriended me.
Anyone that is serious about finding me can seek me out on Google Plus where I am hidden in plain sight. Now I can’t speak for anyone else who is indifferent about the social networking platform, but is the problem Facebook, or does the problem reside with the people who have feelings of ambivalence about Facebook? This is a platform that seems to work for the average person, so what is it about me and the millions of people who have migrated over to Google Plus and Twitter that is different from everyone else?
If I’ve known you in real life, I prefer to communicate face-to-face. On the other hand, if we can’t communicate in cyberspace, is it because we don’t have anything to talk about or because the nuances of our communication in the past that cannot be communicated in cyberspace necessary for us to communicate effectively. Every time I interact with Facebook, I have more questions about mankind that I had in the past. Perhaps I learn more about myself through Facebook than I will ever learn through any other social network.