The popularity of text messaging has been both a blessing and curse to the dating world. Unlike talking in person where you can gauge emotion, text messages can often be misinterpreted. A common complaint from girls is why does the guy I’m texting give short responses? Short responses can be misconstrued as uninterested and lazy, but that is only the case under certain circumstances.
He gives short responses when he is at work
Whenever a guy is at work, out with his friends or at the gym, he isn’t looking to concentrate his time focused on his phone. We will often give short responses to show that we are keeping in touch and keeping in contact during the day, but he doesn’t mean anything negative by it. The guy is just focused on something else and he isn’t intentionally ignoring you.
He never initiates the text conversation and gives short replies
Whenever a guy doesn’t initiate a text conversation and then gives short replies back to you when you initiate the conversation, it probably means he’s not interested. When I’m interested in someone I will be anxiously waiting to get the next message and keep the conversation going. I will often initiate the conversation, but then not reply immediately as not to appear needy. However, whenever guy’s are not interested, we will respond politely, but will never initiate a conversation and we will give short replies that demonstrate a lack of interest.
He gives short replies while he is out with his friends
When a relationship is new and the guy is interested, he will bend over backwards in order to text you back and keep you interested. Guy’s won’t give short replies when he’s interested, especially when he is bragging about you to his friends when he’s with them. If anything he may text you more. However, if he’s out on guy’s night and you two have been dating for a while, he may give short replies since this is the one night of the week he gets to see his friends without you around. This isn’t a bad thing if you get a short reply, it just means he’s enjoying time with his friends. You have to gauge this based on your own relationship.
He takes hours to respond with extremely short text messages
Everyone that owns a smartphone can tell you that they look at their phone at least hourly if not more. When your guy takes hours to respond to your long text message with an extremely short reply, it typically means he isn’t interested. He sends a message back just as a courtesy, but isn’t interested because he doesn’t even take the time to respond thoroughly. However, you also have to review the content you are sending him. If you are just talking about your job, your day at school, or your outing with your friends, we probably are not interested and give a short response back. On the other hand, if you are asking him personal questions and he gives you short responses, he probably isn’t interested if he can’t give you more than a one-word response.