Anyone suffering from grief can find help within the pages of Safe Harbor, A Workbook Dealing with Loss. Author, Victoria Warner, addresses the shock and emotional trauma many encounter that begins within the first few moments of the loss of a loved one. This is a situation she has endured herself and is committed to helping others cope with and recover from their grief too.
The book is detailed and concise in its step-by-step suggestions, yet maintaining a very personal connection between the writer and the reader. It’s intentionally simple and easy to follow. For someone who is experiencing intense emotional shock and the dulled-reasoning that often reduces them to moving between moments in a sort of mental autopilot fashion, any help that is simple to incorporate and easy to understand are gems of great value.
The author describes her own grief-induced heartache as being so intense, she thought she might die within the first few moments of experiencing it. Her on-the-spot survival solution was to make a pact with herself, agreeing with her on psyche to keep living for just a few more minutes. Little by little she added time to each set of those minutes, allowing her mind and body to adjust to the impact of the grief she was enduring.
It bought her time and allowed her to catch her breath as her mind and body adjusted to the pain of coping with a brand new, painful reality, one monumental moment at a time. Life would never be the same for her, but it would still have meaning and be cherished.
Since then, although she has never stopped missing her loved one, she has learned there is still joy to be experienced, brought on from a vast array of sources, and grief doesn’t have to last forever, stopping us in our tracks and keeping us in emotional agony, if we don’t want it to.
We have the choice to grow strong again, recover from the blow, and not allow grief to rule the rest of our lives. There is happiness to be had again if we’re willing to make room for it. Grief may have to be endured for a season, but when its season is over, we can heal and be happy again. Happiness after recovering from a loss doesn’t detract from the importance of the lives or memories of our loved ones who have walked on.
Victoria Warner has been an educator for her entire career. Her experience literally spans the globe encompassing diverse races, cultures, economies and physical environments. For all of the sad sights she’s seen, she’s also witnessed beauty in many different faces and situations. For those who are grieving, and are willing to take a small step in recovery, she is compelled to share her experiences and expertise to help them through it.
Safe Harbor, A Workbook For Dealing With Loss is Victoria Warner’s first book. Not only did she keep it amazingly affordable, she added information that will direct, and even encourage, readers to reach out and make contact with her, which can be done via her website, Life Talks – I Write. There readers can get discover her wide array of interests and fields of expertise via her blogs where she encourages their commenting and participation.
The book’s foreward is written by author, Maria Jordan of marcoujor.com and is published by Mockingbird Books. It may not be a book you need for yourself, but it would make a beautiful and encouraging gift for someone who is suffering the pain of a loss and struggling through their grief. It’s available in e-book version via the author’s website and Amazon books.