I am a firm believer in the age-old manta of “everything happens for a reason”. No matter how traumatic our experiences in life, we have been given the opportunity to choose how we handle situations and how we allow them to impact us. This is not to say life isn’t hard because anyone who has experienced hurt or heartache can testify that it is – especially those who have been bullied for being who they are.
I can speak about this from experience. Everyone has those awkward middle school years, but mine were magnified because I have Tourette’s Syndrome. I came home from school “sick” almost weekly because I couldn’t handle the terrible remarks my “friends” made about me. This bullying has caused a myriad of issues including depression, but now about 14 years later, I have finally gained self-confidence. If I had the opportunity to go back and give myself advice this is what I would say…
Don’t take what they are saying personally.
Yes, the comments are directed at you, but it’s because you are different and they don’t understand it. They are also insecure and if you could see them now (many had kids in high school, and others have gone to jail for assault and/or drug possession) you definitely wouldn’t put any worth in what they are saying.
Don’t hide the light that radiates from you, embrace it.
You have the spirit of The Lord in you and people can see it. That’s why when you get older, you find that you attract people who need spiritual renewal and who come to you to find peace. God has given you the gift of compassion and while you may be burned by the people who you consider your close friends, that experience will ultimately give you a hungry drive to help others so they never have to feel the pain of being rejected.
Don’t succumb to the lies the world tells you.
God has designed you to be a curvy girl, you will never be a “perfect” size four like the media says you should be in order to attract men and be beautiful. You are going to settle in at a bodacious size 10 and it will be your vivacious personality that draws suitors to you. You’ll hear about girls with eating disorders and who cut themselves to feel something in this world that has taught us to be so desensitized to things. Don’t do it, stand strong and be there for girls who have that struggle.
You are a beautiful person with a joyful personality.
As life goes on, muck will try to cover you in order to make you like everyone else. Embrace your differences, embrace the fact that you went through a hard time and were bullied. There is always a greater purpose for the things that happen to us.