Going out with someone whom I’ve met from an online website waved a dangerous red flag. I didn’t know whether that person was being truthful or not. But if that scared me, I wouldn’t have met my husband. I’ve had several dating experiences that went sour because of simple basic things I’ve overlooked. Those were lessons for me to share so others can avoid a bad experience and have a good time. There are ways to accept a date from an online stranger and be totally safe from danger. These tips are essential for both men and women.
BE HONEST when you meet someone for the first time. Nowadays, men and women meet online. There are chatrooms, social networking sites, and business transactions that bring two people together. Online photos say a lot about a person’s honesty. In my case, I’ve learned my lesson when I met a pretender face-to-face. He didn’t look like the photo he sent to my email address. That was a scary experience. From then on, I have avoided the ones with no profile photos. Its absence tells me that the person is in hiding. Do remember that your computer has a webcam access. Switching it on is one honest move. Use it wisely.
BE INDEPENDENT (part 1). If you finally set-up to meet someone face-to-face, be sure to drive your own car during your first date. You hardly know the person you’re meeting, and having your own car is safer. One time, I did the opposite. I ended up calling a cab. Date turned into a nightmare, and it would’ve been great if my car was there. Don’t experience the same thing. Drive your own car.
CHOOSE A VENUE WISELY. Always choose a public venue where there will be a lot of other people. Avoid movie theaters for a first date. Again, you hardly know each other. The purpose of a first date is to know the personality and character of the other person. Entrusting yourself to a stranger inside a dark venue is not a wise decision. A lot of things can make it all a bad experience for both. Besides, how can you know someone in the dark while watching a movie? Even if there are other people inside the theater, you can’t really talk out loud. Don’t let your date’s hands do the talking You can do that later on if everything clicks between the two of you.
BE A GOOD LISTENER/CONVERSATIONALIST. I’m never the dominant speaker when it comes to dates, but I’m not a mute either. I speak when needed. Anyhow, I’ve observed other couples. There were others who talk non-stop. It showed how nervous the person was and talking was an outlet. It was a total turn-off, men and women alike.
BE INDEPENDENT (part 2). As much as possible, pay for your own meal. In that way, there’s no owing the person something in return. Don’t be the damsel-in-distress and have a knight-in-shining armor buy your every meal. Remember, you’re looking for someone to enjoy the things you like, and not a free meal. Communication is key to a successful first date. Talk to your date before going out. Make sure both parties understand who will get the check. Don’t assume that men will. We’re way past that era.
My personal principle in dating is, “If it doesn’t feel right, then don’t do it.” I’ve made the right choices so far.