Have you found yourself smiling more at pregnant ladies or browsing the baby aisle at Target even though you don’t have a baby? Perhaps you now think “awww!” instead of “ugh!” when you think about being pregnant? These are just a few of the signs that you have baby fever, and that you may be ready to have a baby. Is anyone ever really ready? It’s one of the eternal questions. I will go ahead and say there’s no concrete answer to this question. But I do think if you wait until you think you are ready, you may never have kids. So if the signs point to kids for you, go with your gut and start trying for a baby! (I’m also going to guess that no husband has ever complained when a wife has said “Guess it’s time to get busy, honey…”)
My husband and I knew we were ready for kids when we’d done a lot of other things first. College degrees acquired, jobs obtained in family-friendly Minnesota, our wedding bells rang out loud and clear, and we bought a house. And we had two pets that were thriving. What was next for us? Kids! I don’t know if there was one magical moment where we knew we were ready, but I can tell you as we did a walk through of the house that we ended up buying, I pictured the house with a few kids running around, even though we only had a guinea pig at this point. The seed was planted in my mind, and two years later, we welcomed our first son into the world.
If you’re trying to decide if you are ready to have a baby, ask yourself a few of these questions.
Are you ready to endure pregnancy? (If that’s a no, go back to your childless ways and wait until you say “yes!”)
Are you ready to give up some (or most) of your time and freedom? It gets a bit harder to plan outings, vacations, dates, etc. once you have a little bundle of joy to factor in. You can still have a life once you have a baby, but I can almost guarantee that your new social life will orbit around the center of your new universe: your baby.
Perhaps most importantly: Are you ready to have your heart go walking around outside of your body? I have heard parenthood described as such, and I completely agree. Once you have a child, you will learn what it means to love someone unconditionally. You will love your child more than you could imagine, and you will think that love is the greatest gift life could ever offer.
Ready for a baby? If so, cheers to you! I toast to you… with a glass of water and a prenatal vitamin. Let your journey begin!