Starting a family is fairly easy. First comes love, then comes marriage, then comes baby in the baby carriage — right?
Here’s the thing. Even if you are or think you are 110 percent ready, you’re not. Parenthood is exactly everything you never knew it was. It is something that cannot be precisely explained in words. What I can say is that it will be the most difficult, challenging, jaw-clenching, exhausting, emotionally and mentally draining “career” you could have.
It is also the most fascinating, inspiring, rewarding, wonderful, and important job you could ever have the pleasure to obtain.
So how do you know when it’s time? For me, it all started when I met the man that made me want to be a Mother. Sounds weird, huh! But really, when we met I subconsciously started daydreaming about him playing with my future children. This was a first for me. Then we got married, and right away there was a constant feeling that someone else needed to come to our new family.
On top of that, every time I saw a baby or small child I would have this urge to reach out and hold them, and play with them, and feed them, and put them to sleep, and dress them in cute little baby outfits, and pinch their little cheeks… Also, kinda weird.
I guess you have to be weird to start a family! HA! No, what I’m trying to say is that you will feel it when it’s right.
I would love to say that we were financially ready, but nope. My weird desire to start a family was too impatient for that. We had a “honeymoon” baby. He was born 9 months after we were married. Even with financial struggles, I am so happy we had him and each of our other 4 children. They make my life worth living each day. They make me proud. They make me special. They have taught me more about life than any schooling has ever done.
Of course, there are always going to be doubts. You might be feeling the desire to start your family, but worry you won’t be a good parent or you can’t afford to or you need to start a career first. Whatever the doubts are, remember that every parent out there has had those same doubts, and any one of us you ask will say that we never regretted taking the deep plunge into parenthood.
Okay, now I’m not saying you should go all Octo-mom-ish, but if you truly have the desire and feel that nagging weirdo rear it’s head, it might be time.
I hope this helps you find your weirdness and start a family that makes you as happy as I am! Or, if you’re not weird enough yet, wait…it will come.