TV evangelist Pat Robertson caused a stir this month when he told a female caller on “The 700 Club,” who had been cheated on by her husband, that she should “stop talking about the cheating” and focus on why she’s likely at fault for his infidelity. Yahoo News asked women and men who have been cheated on (and who have cheated) to tell their stories and consider Robertson’s remarks.
FIRST PERSON | I lived in Connersville, Ind., which is where I met the woman I was in a relationship with for five years before I went into the U.S. Navy.
Before shipping off to Gaeta, Italy, I asked her to marry me. She said yes, but in less than a year, she was already cheating on me. I found this out the hard way. I called to talk to her one day while I had some free time before going to stand watch on the bridge of the ship.
While talking to her, she stated that she had to let me go to go get ready. I asked her where she was going, and to my surprise she stated she had a date. I said, “Excuse me?” She asked me to let her explain. I said that there was no explanation needed. I understood what she was doing, and that I was not going to continue talking to her. I then launched a $400 cell phone into the middle of the Atlantic Ocean.
I believe that the cheating happened because she could not withstand her sexual urges. I don’t know what can work when there is so much distance placed between a man and a woman. This is the other part of the reason I believe she cheated. The best thing I could have done in my situation knowing that she was as sexual as she was is to have left her before joining the Navy. But I had hopes that we could make it work.
To my amazement, this woman had the audacity to marry this other guy. So, for the next six months I decided to have as much fun being single as possible. I decided that the Navy left that option wide open for me, and that since we would traveling all over Europe, I would enjoy it.
I believe that infidelity is preventable as long as the love is true. If this is not the case then we would not know or here of people being together for 50-plus years to the same person. Relationships are like jobs the more you put in the more you get out of it.
Robertson’s comments make me sick. The reason I say this is that I can proudly say I have been with my wife for 10 years and have never cheated. Don’t blame infidelity on one gender, because it makes you sound sexist. Infidelity can happen to anybody of any walk of life, and for any reason at all.
My best piece of advice is that, if you’re in a relationship, put some work into it, and see what your harvest reaps for you.