Weddings are always subjects of hot debate. There are always the traditionalists against the modernists and it leaves many people somewhere in between. Here are five tips for the modern wedding that may also leave you stress free and possibly save some money.
1.You still need to send invitations to the people you want to invite.
Mary didn’t send invitations for her wedding because she thought that she didn’t have to. She believed that she was having a quiet and very intimate wedding where only thirty people were invited. She thought that she could let her invitees know on Facebook and it would be enough. Plus, she thought she was saving a lot of money by not having invitations printed.
Not doing this can will create chaos and pandemonium especially when it comes to feeding your guests. Who is invited? Who isn’t invited? How do you keep track of your guests? Wedding gifts? Trying to avoid invitations is just a bad idea all around. Plus, it’s always good to have invitations in writing instead of a word of mouth deal. You’re not having a barbecue: it’s a wedding. No it doesn’t count if you’re having a wedding barbecue.
2.It’s okay for someone to wear white to your wedding. Yes, I went there.
I read in a popular blog that if someone wears white to your wedding that the person is trying to upstage you. That couldn’t be further from the truth and its time that this little myth die quickly.
First off, no one can upstage the bride. Not even if you wore a clown suit. It is at least half the reason why people are present at your wedding. When the bride walks down the aisle, everyone must stand. She is the center of attention for the entire day and always will be. There is no outfit that one of your swanky cousins could wear that will take the attention off of you, unless she too is dressed in a wedding gown. Then you may have some concerns. Unless one of your guests is dressed in another white wedding or ball gown, calm down. No one is going to steal your shine on your special day. If you feel that they may, you might want to rethink their invitation.
3. Forgo the bridal party if it is causing too much confusion and trouble.
The first day I announced my engagement to my friends, the race was on for who was going to be in the bridal party. It was simply amazing how the cool and collected bunch that were my friends quickly changed into these fire breathing monsters, vying for the shot to be my Maid of Honor. It is the most coveted title in a bridal party. She is the Bride’s right hand and will get ample screen time, standing next to the Bride for sure. If a girl can’t be a Bride, then Maid of Honor is the next best thing at a wedding. She may even get to wear a different dress and have the responsibility of whipping the other girls into shape.
But if this is causing too much strife for you, it is perfectly okay to just strike this part of your wedding altogether. No dress fittings besides your own, no paying for manicures and pedicures, and no gifts for these sometimes ungrateful people. Besides, being a member of a bridal party takes an ample amount of time and money. While some may be disappointed that they won’t walk down the aisle with you, others may breathe a sigh of relief.
4. Your bridesmaids can wear different colors as long as it’s within your wedding color scheme.
Let them pick out their own dresses especially if they are paying for it themselves.
Going through pictures of uniformly dressed bridal parties cause me to feel sick to my stomach at times. All over the world, women in the bridal party moan and groan about having to wear matching dresses, shoes, and head pieces while these dresses will sit in the back of their closets until the Rapture.
Nowadays, brides are going with more than one or two colors for their wedding palettes. Why are you going for that uniformed look? Your bridal party can still look polished and chic without looking like deranged twins on a night out.
5. Don’t be afraid of the Winter Wedding!
Chestnuts roasting on an open fire may be a great background for a Christmas song but it’s not a bad idea for a Winter wedding. The ice and snow may be off-putting for some and the thought of not freezing when taking your wedding photos outdoors may be enough for many of you to stop reading this article.
But there are nothing but advantages if you decide to have your wedding when there is ample snow on the ground. Despite the obvious of having practically whatever day available to you, you could save a lot of money.
To protect your guests from driving during inclement weather, make sure that your ceremony and reception are held in the same space. Vendors may even offer you deep discounts for having your wedding during the off-season. Remember, wedding vendors make their money during the busy wedding season but they still want your business and can reward you with huge deals if you book them. Besides, freshly fallen snow against the backdrop of a roaring fireplace will create perfect and romantic memories for many years to come.