No one is perfect, and absolutely no one has a perfect relationship, even if it seems picture-perfect by all accounts. Unlike the love between a parent and a child, a romantic relationship comes with strings. They are not made of yarn, twine or hemp. On the contrary, they are invisible threads that are primarily comprised of trust. If they are clipped away one by one, or if they never existed in the first place, eventually nothing will be left. When a woman lives with someone who is abnormally mistrustful, he will remain grounded, but she will eventually float away like a helium balloon.
Although the example sounds like nothing more than literary irony, it is based on direct knowledge. No one should live with a man who has serious trust issues, even if he recognizes the problem and decides to seek professional help. The fallout can be emotionally exhausting and devastating. However, the relationship does not have to completely end if professional therapy is effective. It is best to reside in separate dwellings until both partners are emotionally healthy and 100% committed to one another.
If He Does Not Trust Others He Will Not Fully Trust You
If a guy shows a blatant mistrust of others in just about every facet of life, more than likely he does not fully trust you either. You should not live with the man. Mistrust will be a major problem, especially if you are residing in his home. It does not matter if you prove your honesty in the smallest of ways. Acts of reliability such as returning loose change from pants pockets will be overlooked, but the smallest of mistakes will be noted and mentioned. He will still be suspicious of your actions and intentions no matter how honest you truly are.
You Will Be Asked Where His Things Are Again and Again
When living with a guy who does not trust, you will have to account for the smallest of things, even you never knew they existed. Imagine being asked where things are on a regular basis. Having to take a mental inventory of everything in cabinets, closets and drawers is emotionally and physically exhausting. It becomes a complete nightmare when they cannot be found.
You Will Not Be Able to Stand Up Without Being Questioned
If you chose to live in the home of a guy with trust issues, be prepared to explain your every move. You will not be able to stand up without being questioned on where you are going or what you are doing. Something as simple as getting up for a drink of water will become a concern. Chances are he still will still doubt your intentions and answers.
Texts and Phone Conversations Will Be Probed
A guy with trust issues will question text messages and phone conversations more often than not, and his mind will be fueled by more than just natural curiosity. All kinds of negative possibilities will run through his head, especially if he is deceitful. If he is a cheater, he knows that others are fully capable of the same type of behavior.
As eloquently said by George Bernard Shaw, “The liar’s punishment is, not in the least that he is not believed, but that he cannot believe anyone else.” The man in your life is not necessarily a liar let alone a cheater, but you do not have to be a martyr for love. Do not sacrifice your freedom and happiness in an attempt to control the demons of another. Your emotional well-being will be at stake. If the relationship is worth saving, seek help to solve your problems before moving in together.
Source: George Bernard Shaw, The Quintessence of Ibsenism