According to a study, nearly 26% of women are more concerned about their weight than their overall health, (NY Daily News, 2009). With the media exemplifying the ‘ideal’ thin woman as being the most attractive to men, it can create a lot of insecurity for anyone planning to date. I’ve dated many girls with all body types ranging from thin to larger and have noticed that every girl I’ve been with was in some way concerned about her weight regardless of her actual size. Read on to see what guys really think about your weight and what you can do to snag a great date by addressing one of the most common insecurities with women.
Have you checked your BMI and overall health recently?
Being thin does not necessarily mean that you are healthier. Guys are looking for someone who has an overall healthy lifestyle that includes physical activity as well as eating the right foods. A BMI over 25 may be considered overweight, but BMI doesn’t account for muscle mass and your overall diet. See a medical professional to get to your ideal health. Guys want someone that can stay as active as them and we would rather have someone with a few extra pounds that is in shape, rather than the thin model type that cannot keep up. Many of us are looking for a partner and not a trophy wife.
Are you just a “few extra pounds”?
The reason that guys care about weight to some degree is because we would be concerned about your overall health. A few extra pounds, where you may not be a thin model type, but your weight also does not get in the way of daily activities is generally accepted by most men. When I date, I personally don’t consider weight as a deal breaker or a deal maker, I care more about personality and overall chemistry. However, many guys would be hard pressed to date someone that is obese as it can have substantial health impacts. Guys typically will be willing to work with you to maintain a healthy lifestyle, which can create bonding if you are looking to lose the weight. We are looking for someone who is goal oriented and working towards a healthy lifestyle. However, this does come down to personal preference as I would not date someone who has an unhealthy habit, such as smoking, since it can create many health impacts that are completely avoidable.
Should I wait to date until I am at my ideal weight?
I’ve read several advice columns encouraging women to begin dating before they are at their ideal weight goal. I have to agree with this advice because we can all make excuses to improve something, such as getting a better job, losing weight, or going back to school. However, part of the fun of being in a relationship is working towards your personal goals with the support of your partner. While there are many shallow guys out there, don’t discredit yourself if your weight is an issue. Many guys will still date you and the relationship can still thrive. As with all personal goals, don’t give up on your goals due to feeling comfortable in a relationship. Many men are looking for someone that is ambitious with consistent improvement, rather than having the ideal person on the first date.