Divorce is never easy and the emotions you feel seem to be unique, but you find that you are not the only one feeling this way at all. This book establishes that you are not alone in how you feel and life does go on after this painful difficult period. It covers so much of the phases one goes through as you make your way through breakup to divorce court.
The author draws from her own experience as well as hundreds of couples that she interviewed. Each section has a different phase of divorce. I can bet you will relate to them all if you have ever went through a divorce. The title ”Crazy Time” is really perfect for just how everything seems out of control.
The first section is on Crisis and includes deadlock, confrontation, and separation. The chapter on deadlock speaks about marriages doomed from the beginning and how the couple never came together: Two strangers sharing a home, children, and bedroom. The confrontation is when the subject of divorce is brought up. One point in the chapter on separation was from a counselor who said couples who are actively fighting have a better chance at making up then the ones who are silent.
The second section is on crazy time. You will learn why it is never a good idea to make major decisions at this point and time…which is so odd since you will be making many life-changing decisions during the divorce!! Crazy time refers to how you feel for up to two years after the separation, making rash decisions and going from depression to anger in a moment. This is the time totally normal people mimic Jerry Springer’s guests. The rest of this section deals with feelings of relief, disbelief, shock, anger, ambivalence, and depression.
The last section is on recovery. This is the time acceptance comes into play once things have calmed down. The chapters in this section includes emergence of self. One main part of this section is on the public divorce. Not only the court process, but about how friends and family perceive your divorce. Sex, love, and remarriage is covered here too. What can you do this time around to make it last? Will your scars from your previous marriage affect your new marriage? Will you ever have a good relationship? As the author, I felt the divorce was a personal failure of mine. Maybe all couples who are married for a long period of time feel this way.
Just as you go through many stages of grief over a death, expect to do the same with your divorce. It takes time to heal. This book is a great start on the road to recovery after or during a divorce. ”Crazy Time” is separated into sections so you can flip to where you are in the process. The book is 288-pages of supportive revelations, so you know that you are not alone and not going insane. This is actually normal!! The author’s easy style of writing made me feel right at home.
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