Like everyone else, your kids are not perfect. They are going to make their fair share of mistakes. However, they will become more disciplined and have an easier time growing with your guidance. In this article, I will give you tips on how to help your children learn from their mistakes.
Using nonverbal communication
When I did something wrong, my parents sometimes showed their disapproval through nonverbal communication. One way they did it was to stare at me with a frown. Another was to shake their heads in disapproval. It was sometimes more effective for them to express their discontent to me through silence and nonverbal communication than it was to chastise me.
If taking the measures discussed above does not work, try something else. My parents sometimes scolded me. Whenever briefly scolding me turned out to be ineffective, they would give me a lengthy lecture. Sitting through a lecture was a powerful motivator for me to change my ways, as it was very unpleasant to sit through a long lecture. If you cannot reform your kids through silence, scolding or lecturing, you must punish them.
You have to know how to offer assistance in a gentle way, as not all of the mistakes your kids make are malicious. In fact, some of the mistakes they make occur as a result of being inattentive or simply careless. For example, they might accidentally bump into an object or drop a fragile item they are carrying. In a situation like this, you should resort to giving advice. You will probably succeed in getting them to never make this blunder again by suggesting that they always watch where they are going and carry fragile items with both of their hands instead of just one.
It is also important to have good teaching skills and patience, as your kids will sometimes mess up as a result of not being competent at something. My parents were able to teach me techniques that enabled me to improve at a particular task. They had to be patient while training me, as it would usually take me a while to get the hang of something I was learning to do.
You must be sensitive in regard to your kids’ feelings and avoid putting too much pressure on them. If they misbehave in public, you should first resort to telling them to cut it out. If they make an error while playing a sport, you should not make a big deal out of it, especially if it is a physical error. Allow them to play knowing that you will be proud of them as long as they do their best.
You have learned how to help your kids learn from their mistakes. It helps to be rational in the way you deal with them, as you will have a hard time getting them on the right track if you are always too hard on them.