Hitting rock bottom does not signify that a person life is over. Life of many successful people starts after hitting rock bottom. The reason to hit rock bottom may vary from person to person. Moreover there are a section of people who are tend to sabotage their own improvement. There are instances where many intelligent people who gets inclined to drugs and alcohol which results them to hit rock bottom. The consequences are inevitable when one hits rock bottom. They may face loss of job, family, friends and health. It is very painful to see your loved ones taking a wrong path .We then start feeling that by getting proper guidance and help he/she may come out of this problem. Unfortunately, our love, support or help will not solve this problem if he/she does not want to reform.
When a loved one follow the path of self-destruction, no matter how much support you give to them with hope that he/she will realize their mistake soon, it will always be useless if they refuse to change. It is tough to cut the cord, especially when it comes to a loved one. You will always go on caring for the person no matter what. We even go on pleading them to change their lifestyle by get some help. I feel at times when a person is on a path of self-destruction they believe if they misplace their value and worth, a love one will step in to take care of them, they will find a way to give them back their value and worth. With this sort of thought they will continue to sink lower and lower in life and ultimately be at a loss. At some point realization have to be put in place, we cut the cord and face reality they have to want help before we can help. We need to do this so that they will be able to stand on their own two feet one day and become self-sufficient; they will learn as well as know their value and worth.
Now the question is, is there any way to change their mindset? When we start moving out of their life they always know how to bring us back to their lives and again we want to give in. But is it right to give in, in this circumstance? Certainly not. We need to develop a mind frame that this situation happens to someone who is in the process of self-destruction. We require to try to intervene. At the outset, we need to realize that we can get caught in a trap. Then we have to put effort to bring a love one out from their present state of life and let them be confident enough to start a life afresh. Moreover, if you accept the present situation, they start getting more dependent on you. This will ultimately lead to a more self-destructing behavior.
Irrespective of the fact whether they accept help or chose to continue to fail, we must put the help out there with a mind frame they has hit rock bottom. We must know how to provide tough love to them and never forget the fact that they should be provided with help only when they seek the same. At times, people who feels themselves to be lonely, deprived of love and being misunderstood by the world, often tend to take the path of self-destruction. We have a wrong notion that by expressing more and more love and never tough love we can help a love one to overcome this state. We should never lose hope on our loved ones who are going through such acute phase and have hit rock bottom.
Though at times you may feel while helping the person that you are being manipulated and risk a chance of losing yourself. But in reality, majority of people are not aware of the fact that of how they are messing up their own lives. You can bring a drastic change in their lives by not concentrating on their actions but just by expressing love generously towards them. After all hitting rock bottom does not signify that the person’s life is over. By providing ample love when need and tough love as well as support you can assist a love one to be the best. Remember there are many successful people who were homeless or on the path of self-destruction before they achieved their dreams after hit rock bottom. With implementation of various motivational aspects, you may actually bring a radical change in a love one lives. In my opinion, hitting rock bottom ultimately signifies that anyone can reach to the top one day with right sort of love, determination and support.