Is there a specific definition of a family? Of course there is, but I mean, in our time – Can you really define what a family is?
I don’t think so. Families are so much more than a mother a father and their kids. Just like different people put different ingredients in their brownies, families can be made out of different components. Your brownie might not look the same as mine, but both of them taste really good. When I talk about my family, I don’t refer to my mom, my dad, and my brother. I refer to so much more than that. Since a couple of months back, I have another family on this side of the Atlantic ocean, and now, they are also a part of what I choose to call my Family. I like it this way. My recipe just keeps on developing, and the brownie just tastes better, and better. It might look a little bit odd, but that’s not the point. The important thing is the taste.
I think that children with divorced parents find out a special way of putting a family together. The original group of people is not your family anymore. Or, they are, but in a new way. The traditional family is very rare to bump in to nowadays, and I think that this helps us develop a new way of looking at different families. Putting new ingredients in to your recipe doesn’t have to do with someone getting a divorce or people separating, it just has to do with time and development. Even if families still consist of a married couple and their children, I’m sure every family has their own special ingredient. Maybe an extra kid from another family or some old lady that they call grandmother even if she’s not, or the cousin who isn’t really your cousin, but there’s no better way to explain who he is. The point I want to make here, is that there is no definition left of what a family is. You just can’t define a family anymore, there are several different types of them, just like brownies, and I like it.
I come from a perfect family, not in the traditional way, but in my way. As long as you have the most important ingredient, Love, I think you can manage to bake a perfect family. Trust is also very important, just like understanding, but what you choose to put in to your brownie is up to you. That’s the good thing about it. What I call a brownie, might not be what my mom calls a brownie, she might call it a chocolate cake or something completely different. But, it is still a brownie. I just baked it in another way than she would. What you decide to put in to your brownie is up to you, just like who I choose to include in, what I call, “My family” is up to me. There are so many different types of families out there, some are new and freshly baked, some are a bit dry but still tastes good, and some are made with two (three or more) different recipes that are mixed together for the best result. If the ingredients decide to work together and look at themselves as one big tasty pastry, they are. If I don’t think your pastry looks like a brownie doesn’t mean you don’t think so. You are probably very pleased with it and what I might find odd with it, is probably what you love about it. Let everyone bake their own perfect brownie and don’t try to change their recipe. There’s always room for someone else’s thoughts and opinions, but don’t make changes without asking the creator first. Everyone has their own way of putting together a family. Everyone should respect that. If you’re in someone’s brownie, without really fitting in, try to cooperate with the other ingredients. There’s probably a reason for why your baker tried to fit you in there. The baker only puts ingredients he likes in to his brownie, so help him out, because when you bake your brownie, you’re free to use whatever ingredient you think fits in!