With so much energy, freshness and youth, you have surpassed the challenging times of teenage years and are ready to rock the world. There are a lot of opportunities waiting ahead of you. However, you also have a fair share of disappointments and frustrations. You are most prone to dilemmas involving school, work, friends and family. Plus, being not-too young and not-too old put you in an in-between situation. Furthermore, decision making is becoming crucial in your life as it can be define your future.
Given this, being happy and contented seems to be a little difficult. So here are some ways to fully achieve that authentic happiness and contentment, instead of a fleeting joy that can disappear in an instant.
Stop comparing.
Stop comparing yourself with others especially to your friends and other people with the same age as yours. You are undergoing a different path. You have a different ability and skills. You have different dreams. He/she may have been in that managerial position because he/she works hard for it. That what makes it the same for you.
Stop whining and work hard. Know your path and stop walking behind their shadows or shadows of anyone. Reach for your dreams and work hard for it.
Be happy with the achievement of others and use them as inspiration.
It is not good to envy others for their success or for the things that they have worked hard on getting. Remember, envy is one of the seven capital sins. The best thing that you can do is to be happy for them and use them as inspiration. Think about this, if your friend did it, then most probably you can do it as well. It’s a matter of proper motivation.
On the side note, don’t fool yourself that you can be as successful as them immediately. Unless you have won a lottery or have inherited a multi-billion company. Success cannot be achieved overtime. If so, it will not be that sweet and rewarding.
Stop thinking that you are young and you have a lot of opportunities ahead of you.
Indeed, there are a lot of opportunities for you. However, you don’t need to jump from one job to another every now and then just to grab all these opportunities. If you continue to do this you are definitely sabotaging your own career and success. Worst you are wasting your time and you make yourself aged faster.
You may not want the situation that you are currently in, and you can’t possible get out of it because of whatever rational reasons. That is not a problem. You can still be in that situation but you can use your other time to do those things that you want. There is nothing impossible for a passionate and hardworking heart. Be resourceful and manage your time wisely.
Find a mentor, or someone that can be an inspiration.
Perhaps you don’t have any idea right now on how to be happy. You are at a lost. Well a good mentor could be an answer to put you back on track. You don’t have to hire someone to teach and remind you of the things that you need to do. It can be your dad or mom, your older sister, a friend, a teacher or someone who has created an impact in your life.
It does not necessarily have to be some person. Your possible mentor or motivator could be yourself. Besides, no one knows you more than yourself. Be strict and discipline yourself. Constantly remind yourself that if you want to be happy and successful you should know how to practice discipline.
Reward yourself
For sure you have been in a difficult situation. You’ve been lonely and unhappy. You are not satisfied with what you are right now. Try to do something little, it does not has to be big. It can be a simple cleaning or washing the dishes, after that, reward yourself. In this way you will be properly motivated. Always remind yourself that for every task accomplished there is an accompanying reward for it.
Happiness is a choice. You just need to have proper mindset. Don’t let the pressures of the world crush you. Know what you want and work hard for it. Be patient and let time do its course. You are free and independent.