When you’re in a relationship, being apart from your significant other is probably the last thing you want. There are few hardships more challenging to overcome than long distance. Some relationships manage to pull through, but others buckle under the pressure. If you’re in a long-distance relationship, how can you keep your goodbyes from being permanent?
1) Put your relationship first. This is a good rule of thumb for anyone in a relationship whether you’re married or still dating. If you’re too busy to focus on cultivating your relationship, then you’re probably not ready to be in one. When you’re with your honey, make the most of your time together. If you can’t see each other, spend some time on the phone. Hearing each other’s voices can make you feel closer and maintain the romance. Better yet: Skype. It won’t be the same as a personal connection, but it’s better than nothing.
2) Don’t mix business with pleasure. When you get the chance to see your lover, make the time together meaningful. Don’t talk about work or your issues with your best friend. You can certainly update each other on what’s going on in your lives, but don’t bring any outside drama into your situation. Doing so will only bring you both down and can put unnecessary stress on the challenge you’re both facing yourselves. Make the time about the both of you and no one else.
3) Don’t get ahead of yourselves. Being long distance can make you worry if your relationship will last. The best thing you can do for both yourself and the relationship is to stop worrying. Enjoy the time you have together and focus on the positives. If you are worried about anything, talk about it and try to resolve it. If that doesn’t help then the issue probably isn’t the long-distance.
4) Keep your relationship private. While social media makes it easy to connect when you’re apart, keep the intimate details of your relationship to yourself. Letting your entire network know about your issues will only initiate feelings of doubt and betrayal. If you are having any issues, it’s a bad idea to air them on social media. That will only accentuate the problem. If you want to show off your love, that may be a bad idea as well. It will look like you’re trying to prove something. As long as your sweetheart knows you love him/her, that’s all that matters.
5) Keep working at it. Relationships are hard to maintain especially if they’re long-distance. Because you see each other less often, you may feel like you’re missing out on the important events that other couples get to share. This may be true, but that doesn’t mean your relationship is any less special. You just have to keep at it. Making that effort, no matter how hard it can get, is crucial to the survival of your relationship. When you finally reunite, it will be all the sweeter.