Being a single mum can be tough, especially when it comes to dating. It’s hard enough to find someone when you’re single, but imagine what it’s like when you’re single with children. This doesn’t mean the days of dating should be done and dusted with, but there are a distinct set of rules to follow when dating as a single mum.
Whether you’re ready to start a new relationship or you’re just looking for a confidence boost, following these steps to steer you in the right direction.
Make sure you’re ready to welcome a new man in your life again.
Think positive when entering the dating scene. There’s no point launching a new relationship with a negative attitude towards love and romance. Even if you haven’t dated in a while, you’ve done it at some stage so you’re not starting from scratch. Be confident in who you are and always think about your children- for they come first.
Balance your priorities
It’s been a while since you’ve enjoyed life as a carefree woman, but life after having a child will never be the same. Remember not to comprise the quality and quantity of time you spend with your children. With constant competing priorities being thrown your way, it’s going to be a challenge- spending time with your new love or the kid’s football game? An earnest dating partner should understand your dedication to your children.
Talk to your child/ren –
When you feel the time is right and depending on your child/rens’ age, tell them about your new love. If you’re casually dating, you may want to wait until things become more serious between the pair of you, before discussing.
Honesty is the best policy
Be honest about your domestic set-up. Your kids are an important part of your life. Don’t waste time with anyone you feel is going to discount you because you have children. Dating women with children isn’t everyone’s cup of tea, so the sooner you establish this, the better. Your new love should be interested to know all about your children and you should feel proud to talk about them. At the same time he wants to come across a woman who also has a lot to offer a loving relationship.
Let your inner radiance shine through your smile. Men love a happy woman and one that shows it too. Even if you are not blissfully ecstatic in your current skin, don’t let this dull the date. Smile and talk about happy moments in your life with and without the children. Enjoy your date and let it flow!