Nowadays happiness is hard to find, if you are content in your relationship, sometimes things don’t always go as you planned. For instance, ladies when you have the feeling that your man is cheating 9 times outta 10, he is. Women have intuition and it is never wrong, so if you think he is stepping out then check and see. If you are married and have been in a relationship for more than a few years, why waste it. Marriage is for better or for worse right? So when the worse hits just pull out the big guns. You see marriage is way cheaper than divorce and it is very hard to get settled and learn a person all over again. Some relationships aren’t meant to be, but all relationships can be worked out. One of you will have to make the change and put in the effort. If the love is there, then the both of you will want to put in the work. Within a relationship, you have to endure some parts, the relationship isn’t always gonna be peaches and cream. Here is what to do when it is just the opposite. No, I am not saying that it is ok for a man or woman to cheat, I am saying that if you plan on being with the person after he or she does then here are some things that you can do to cope with it and enter the healing process.
- 1. Forgive.
This is the best thing you can do when you start the healing process. You see, cheating is by choice, it is not because you did something wrong, it is because that person decided to do it. Don’t beat yourself up over it, know that he or she is human and is allowed to make mistakes in life. Forgive the person and move on, don’t let that negative action keep you from pushing forward.
- 2. Treat yourself.
Maybe you wanted to do something new with your hair or try something new … DO IT!! Whatever makes you happy and feel at your best, do it! You don’t want to have the blues over minor issues, be grateful for you and who you are!
- 3. Do YOU.
You cannot be done by anyone else but YOU! You are different in so many ways, made in the image of GOD, which means there are no obstacles in your life strong enough to hold you back. Make a point in your life to do something BIG for yourself so that you can feel at your best during a crazy time.
- 4. Focus on the positive.
Think of your mate and all of the good times, think of their qualities and the little things they do that makes you love them so much. This is important, because if you decide to stay with the person you don’t want to keep bringing up the bad moments and if you do, you want it to be something you can laugh about later. So try to focus on the good times you have, the good things the person does, don’t focus on the negative.
- 5. De-Stress.
Now is an awesome time to de-stress, try some deep breathing exercises, a couple of yoga classes, even a funny movie, or a glass of wine, peace, quiet and Calgon. Whatever floats your boat, you want to be as stress free as possible. Easing the stress will keep you calm and cool.
These are just a few things you can do to get you going into the healing process, just look at the bright side of things and don’t let anyone steal your joy!