If a loved one is contemplating suicide and talks about wanting to die or ending their own life, then you have a serious issue on your hands. It may be difficult to know what to say to this person when you hear that they want to end their own life. Here are a few ways for you to deal with someone who is speaking of committing suicide.
Do not accuse the person of being selfish. If you accuse a person who is suicidal of being selfish, you may only be hurting their self esteem and making them feel worse. They are obviously going through a very difficult time and do not need to hear criticism. Instead, let the person know that you are aware that they must be suffering so much to want to end their life. Try to build up their self esteem instead of knocking it down.
Also, do not accuse a person who talks about suicide of not being serious and just trying to seek out attention. Yes, they may be seeking attention, but the attention they are seeking may just be a cry out for help or a way for you to understand just how unbearable the pain is that they are dealing with. Do not dismiss what they are saying as only a way of getting attention. Take it seriously and realize that this person is suffering so much that they want to end their own life.
You may want to seek professional help for yourself. If a loved one or someone very close to you is talking about committing suicide, you may want to speak to a mental health therapist, to find out ways to help or cope with the situation. It may be very hurtful and scary to hear that someone you love wants to end their own life.
Encourage your loved one who is suicidal to seek professional help. Suggest other alternatives, such as mental health treatment or group therapy. Offer to find help for them, if they are feel that they can not do it themselves. You may want to speak to someone from a suicide prevention hotline and explain the situation.
Offer to listen to their problems and what it is that is making them feel suicidal. Listen without interrupting and do not be judgmental or critical. Instead, show that you care and are concerned for their well being. Let them know that they have your support and that they are loved. Sometimes people may need reassurance that they are loved and cared about, so let them know this.
There are many different problems and issues that may cause someone to feel suicidal. Usually the person’s suffering may become so unbearable that they may be hopeless and feel that suicide is the only way out of their pain. Encourage hope by saying that life may eventually get better for them and that it may not always be like this. Especially if they are going through a temporary rough time, such as going through a break up. You may want to offer advice on how to deal with the break up or whatever issue they are facing.
Some people may not want to open up about their feelings, issues and reasoning for wanting to commit suicide. If this is the case, and you suspect the person may be in danger of harming themselves, you may want to seek the help of a professional for guidance, call 9-1-1 or a suicide hotline.