As a survivor of an abusive and narcissistic relationship, I have developed a true sense of how to spot and handle them. My experiences have now been shared in collaboration projects with writers where I served as a ghost writer on them. My experience with narcissism is more than just an assignment though. One of the prevailing issues that led to me, thankfully, leaving the abuse and getting help for the PTSD that developed from this exposure was one blaring issue that my ex. continually exhibited. Knowing this information can help anyone that is suffering through one of these egomaniac relationships. There was a time when I allowed my abuser to put me down and cause the demise of my job and reputation. Today, I pass this along to you as my readers so that you can both avoid and recognize this type of hideous behavior. If you are involved with a narcissist , then you need to know how to handle the narcissists’ refusal to accept the truth. They believe that the object of their obsession is always thinking about them. Even when confronted by the truth, they are ignorant and will continually state that you miss them or are thinking about them.
There is a phenomenon in narcissism that helps anyone without prior experience to see the potential of an abuser early on before the damage can be done. That thing is the blatant refusal of the individual to see the truth. The narcissist lives a life that is false. They do this for two basic reasons. The first is his or her desire to lure sources of narcissistic attention, which they desperately need in order to allow the damaged ego to survive, and second, to avoid narcissistic injury. According to Psych Central, this false mask was created from trauma in their own lives. It is their ignorant and psychological defense against a scary world that is not to be trusted.
My ex narcissist eventually had to face the truth of my rejection of their demands. When this began an unusual series of events started in my life. My world was being passively/ aggressively attacked from all sides. Through a technique that narsacists use called “gaslighting,” my ex used other people to sabatoge my life. The thinking, acording to my therapist who is helping me recover from the PTSD that developed from my ex’s abuse, was that I would be demolished and come running back to them. That would then allow my ex abuser to have that ignorant narsacistic source of attention again, even if I didn’t want to give it.
Narcissists force people into situations that demand things of others. That is one of the more blatant aspects of narassitic abuse. They have a drive to force people to do things. When the individul tries to say no, the narsacist becomes enraged and stalks or causes “gasligtting” abuse to force the victim into submission. My ex. even went so far one day as to laughingly ask me: “why won’t you submit to my authority?” Obviously, that would allow me to spot the abuser today. Back then I thought my behavior was bad. Today I know otherwise. I know that I was nothing more than an object that my ex wanted to use for attention and money.
I did try to speak to my ex then and express the discomfort with being forced to ignore my own needs, feelings and health, but the truth of the abuse was something that my ex simply would not face. That truth is exactly what was needed. I know today that no matter what I say or do, the truth will never be accepted. That is why you must leave an ignorant narcissist. So when you ask yourself: how to handle the narcissists’ refusal to accept the truth? Remind yourself that you must simply walk away and leave them in their misery. You cannot help them, no matter how much you care. It is according to Psych Central, the very thing that defines a narcissist for what they are. They can’t handle the truth. That is why you must leave them alone in the misery of narcism.