What happens when a teenager’s self-confidence is torn down? Most parents write it off as teenage angst. Most teenagers feel like it’s the worst thing in the world. So if you think you’re lost and alone at the moment, now is a good time to read this article to regain some confidence.
You probably just can’t help but feel terrible when someone says something unkind to you. In the age of technology that we’re living in, there’s nothing worse than being hated on via the internet, at school, at home, or out with friends. You don’t even have to be receiving hate from others’ actions in order to influence your self-esteem and confidence; if you feel excluded a lot of the time, it can have a very similar effect.
The first and most important thing to do in this situation is really just to breathe. Understand that you will get through this.
Next, realize that there are a lot of people out there going through the same thing. Everyone goes through a time when he/she thinks he/she is ugly, fat, useless, stupid, or worse. That’s not to say that what you’re feeling is insignificant; every thought you have counts and if you aren’t thinking that you’re awesome, you probably need a boost.
Following up on that idea, if you’re feeling low, talk to a friend. Your friends probably know exactly what feeling you’re talking about and they can really help you out. Besides, if there’s anyone out there who knows what kind of awesome, funny, wonderful person you are, it’s your best friend. Your friends know how to help you by encouraging you and reminding you how great you are.
However, don’t just turn to a friend if you’re thinking about suicide or if you think you’re suffering from depression. If you’re cutting or otherwise self-harming, thinking about death and suicide, and/or suffering from depression. If you think that describes you, go to a trusted adult. It sounds like the cheesiest thing ever to appear in an article, but if you’re having that much trouble, it’s not safe to leave your life in the hands of a friend. If you don’t think you’re comfortable going to a parent/parental figure, go to a teacher at school, or your counselor. If none of these work for you, consider talking to the parent of a friend, a religious figure, or anyone you draw inspiration from in your life.
Finally, just know that you are gorgeous, funny, witty, and smart. No one can tell you that you’re not perfect unless they’re perfect themselves–which no one really is. People who knock others down are probably jealous of some attribute that the other person has, whether it be looks, character, or popularity. And remember–it’s better to be surrounded by unpopular people who appreciate you than popular people who take you down. So show your smile and live the way you want to live. Say the things you want to say. Read the books you want to read. Watch the shows and movies you want to watch. Write the things you want to write. Do what you want to do because you’re a force of nature, and no one can stop you.