Who hasn’t said this at one point in their life or another? I know I have, numerous times. If I was given a chance to go chill with young me and reflect on the trials and tribulations of our life, this would be the product of that conversation. That is, as long as “young me” doesn’t faint before I have a chance to speak.
Your Parents, They’ve been There Done That
It’s not necessarily what your parents say that you must learn from, but what it is they do, that is important. Now that I am a parent, everything my mother said about how I shouldn’t rush life and how I have plenty of time, makes more sense to me today than it did when I was younger. Today, I understand how difficult it must have been for her to sacrifice her college education/career just to get a second job, and focus on making sure my sister and I had what we needed. I would tell my young self to give life an honest shot, never settle for being average, usually the rewards worth having are the ones we must work hardest for, and focus on accomplishing your dream because someone had to sacrifice theirs to give you a chance. Then I would tell my parents, thank you.
I am unsure how young the “self” I am talking to is so for sake of argument I will keep the topic of love at a PG-13 rating. I will explain to my more innocent 1.0 version to think of the concept of love as more of an idea than an actual physical feeling, when it comes to relationships. I would say let not the words of others define who they are and what they stand for, but rather let their actions define their character. I would elaborate that if you give people the time to, they will give you all the information you need to know where they stand.
Money, and How to Making a Living
Wrapping up my conversation I would advise mini-me to live life as though money were no object. Pretend that money has no value, and imagine it as nothing more than just another tool like the ones found in a dirty workshop. I would say,” Focus on developing your craft or talents, and if you do that you will make a living.”
Would It Make a Difference?
After imagining a conversation with my younger self I cannot help but wonder if it would matter? We all have had people influencing us in one way or another growing up, but isn’t it the experiences we have that shape who we are? Even if my younger self took my advice, then I don’t think I would be who I am today. I think if my younger self took my advice, then he wouldn’t be leading his own life anymore. I think the idea of not knowing what tomorrow brings to us is part of what makes life worth living, and gives it value.